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I wish that the ghouls out there who oppose no fault divorce would find this evidence compelling.

That's the thing. They do.
posted to MetaFilter by tclark at 4:55 PM on May 31, 2024

About a decade ago my now-wife pointed out that for a guy in his early thirties I'd known an awful lot of people who had been murdered. In a sense she was correct; five people who have been murdered is an awful lot of people for one guy in his early thirties to know.

Except that was really only the broadest and least repellent version of things, because while it was true that I'd known five people who were murdered a much more precise and damning way... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Parasite Unseen at 4:41 PM on May 31, 2024

Culber was briefly possessed by a Trill ghost and retains a faint knowledge of something important from the ghost, but it's not a memory? It's fine; this is Star Trek; Trill lore is literally something you made up and made changes to repeatedly; you really really don't have to overexplain why this residual memory is not technically a memory and lampshade how inexplicable that is. This is what all of that terrible dialogue was building to? JFC.... [more]
posted to FanFare by oneirodynia at 1:57 PM on June 1, 2024

I was like this maybe fifteen years ago, and at that time I despaired of ever finding a therapist smart enough to outsmart all of my bullshit. My attitude and ability to openly share my emotions and challenges in therapy has changed significantly in the intervening time for various reasons.

Firstly, I stuck with therapy on and off over a period of around 12 years. In the early years, I was paying someone by the hour for the privilege of lying to them about how I was... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by terretu at 2:20 AM on June 1, 2024

When my kids were small we played a game where I would pick them up - and then shift them around and around my body without putting them down or letting them drop. Onto the shoulder, onto the back, head down onto my front again, under my arm, head first up to my back again, under my other arm, legs first onto my shoulder, around and around. A couple of them enjoyed this very much. It was a gentle game and we were able to keep it going until they were much too old for it to seem really normal -... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Jane the Brown at 5:45 AM on May 31, 2024

Also, both the cats I work for understand this completely.
posted to MetaFilter by flabdablet at 3:07 AM on May 31, 2024

Anyone else want to chime in?
posted to MetaFilter by Tell Me No Lies at 4:14 PM on May 30, 2024

I am POSITIVE that there will be a bit of a festive mood there tonight

The local Irish pub burned a Trump shaped piñata the day Trump left office. I may go over there just to see what they’re up to.
posted to MetaFilter by Tell Me No Lies at 3:58 PM on May 30, 2024

Florida Man Found Guilty on 34 Counts of Election Meddling
posted to MetaFilter by chromecow at 3:01 PM on May 30, 2024

Anyone else picturing Mark Slackmeyer right about now?

I posted that panel as my Facebook status the second the verdicts were being read.

I texted my roommate (who's still at work) that announcement of "GUILTY ON ALL 34 COUNTS". He texted back a screenshot of someone on Twitter talking about how people in New York are leaning out of their apartments and cars and shouting "Guilty!" at each other. A part... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by EmpressCallipygos at 2:57 PM on May 30, 2024

To everyone thinking this means nothing - including myself:

Donald Trump does not look happy. He is clearly not having a good day. If this truly meant nothing he'd be nonchalant. This event does not mean everything. It means something. And that something is not good for Donald Trump.
posted to MetaFilter by Tomorrowful at 2:55 PM on May 30, 2024

"Donald Trump is a felon. He joins his campaign manager, deputy campaign manager, national security advisor, foreign policy advisor, political consultant, and personal lawyer as felons." (link to Twitter/X/Muskworld)
posted to MetaFilter by Mr.Know-it-some at 2:44 PM on May 30, 2024

It’s going to take a team of surgeons two hours to remove the smile from my face.
posted by Capt. Renault

I'm shocked, SHOCKED to find you're pleased about this.
posted to MetaFilter by hippybear at 2:37 PM on May 30, 2024

CONVICTED FELON DONALD TRUMP

Even better...

🎶CONVICTED FELON DONALD TRUMP, DOO DAH, DOO DAH🎶
posted to MetaFilter by azpenguin at 2:35 PM on May 30, 2024

First time he's actually won a popular vote?
posted to MetaFilter by fnord at 2:22 PM on May 30, 2024

Man, I really hope they're able to protect those jurors.
posted to MetaFilter by furnace.heart at 2:18 PM on May 30, 2024

Compared to intentionally getting several hundred thousand Americans killed in 2020 these 34 counts are like convicting Capone on tax shenanigans, but I gotta take what I can get in this fallen world.
posted to MetaFilter by torokunai at 2:18 PM on May 30, 2024

Does this mean he can't vote in Florida now
posted to MetaFilter by saladin at 2:15 PM on May 30, 2024

Lock him up.
posted to MetaFilter by tonycpsu at 2:10 PM on May 30, 2024

I wouldn't normally cut and paste something this long from CNN, but I thought everyone might enjoy it just this one time.

Follow the latest on the verdict for each of the counts below:

Count 1: GUILTY
Count 2: GUILTY
Count 3: GUILTY
Count 4: GUILTY
Count 5: GUILTY
Count 6: GUILTY
Count 7: GUILTY
Count 8: GUILTY
Count 9:... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by clawsoon at 2:09 PM on May 30, 2024

YES YES YES! 34 TIMES YES!
posted to MetaFilter by dobbs at 2:07 PM on May 30, 2024

Chiming in as another autistic person who was delighted to get permanently sterilised before some nouveau-right techbro fucklechud could persuade me it was actually in the best interests of humanity for me to carry numerous pregnancies to term.

One of the things that struck me most was the idea that a person who originally didn't want any kids because they wanted a big career could possibly be satisfied with such an asinine career as CEO of their own bullshit... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by terretu at 1:13 AM on May 26, 2024

Ah, the "recent Natal conference in Austin" they mention, which was, as savvy readers may have guessed, basically just a bunch of Nazis. Linked article includes a picture of our lovely couple.
posted to MetaFilter by Saxon Kane at 11:39 AM on May 25, 2024

This is another really irresponsible piece of journalism by the Guardian. These people have clear and persistent ties to white supremacists and this is nowhere brought out in the article. They aren't just your ordinary child-hitting loons, and frankly this piece is very much in the Richard-Spencer-dapper-Nazi line.
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:22 PM on May 25, 2024

Something something low hanging fruit? Seriously - anyone?

Some (not all) gay men like big guys with big dicks and big balls. Balls hanging lower makes them look bigger and provide a more pleasurable experience in certain positions when there's, you know, gravity at work. That's all, really.

It's an interesting experience reading this as someone who has some knowledge of gay beauty standards and the issues of the gay... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by fight or flight at 1:03 PM on May 29, 2024

Botox for the scrotum to help it hang lower

Scrotox, surely.
posted to MetaFilter by Jon_Evil at 3:48 PM on May 29, 2024

Do your balls hang high,
Do your balls hang low,
Can you tie them in a knot,
Can you tie them in a bow,
Can you throw them over your shoulder,
Like a continental soldier,
Do your balls hang low?
posted to MetaFilter by njohnson23 at 1:07 PM on May 29, 2024

It’s a coping mechanism, assuming the worst so you can be pleasantly surprised if it doesn’t happen but are mentally prepared if it does. I’m not saying it’s healthy, but I get it.

It doesn’t play well in public, though. For me, however much it helps me internally, I try not to broadcast it because it makes me look like an asshole.
posted to MetaFilter by rikschell at 7:01 AM on May 30, 2024

The bad news for "Star Trek" fans comes from an instrument known as NEID, a recent addition to the complex of telescopes at Kitt Peak National Observatory. NEID, like other radial velocity instruments, relies on the Doppler effect: shifts in the light spectrum of a star that reveal its wobbling motions.

So what you're saying is the needs of the many were outweighed by the NEID of the one?
posted to MetaFilter by The Bellman at 6:39 AM on May 30, 2024

Fascinating.
posted to MetaFilter by Halloween Jack at 8:52 PM on May 29, 2024

Dammit, we're in the Kelvin timeline!
posted to MetaFilter by ChurchHatesTucker at 8:16 PM on May 29, 2024

Friend, I honor your desire to be in solidarity and your clearly deep moral commitment to honoring those who are most vulnerable. I applaud your commitment to this cause. But I gently suggest some inquiry into this paragraph: But looking away feels immoral—especially when we've been asked to bear witness by some of the victims' families; when sometimes the only action victims can take is to share detail of what is occurring in Palestine; and I want to be in solidarity with the... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by latkes at 6:31 AM on May 29, 2024

You’ve seen it. You know what’s happening. You’re not turning away. You’re doing what you are able to try and help. Continuing to look at these images and videos is not a moral imperative. There is nothing moral in continuing to do this to yourself. You’ve seen more than enough and are not about to forget what you’ve seen or stop trying to do your best.

What I get from your post is actually you are desperate for a break, but cannot acknowledge that, and so are willing... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Balthamos at 5:24 AM on May 29, 2024

What hurts is not that she gave away the food (although that's annoying) it's that when I got frustrated, her reaction was all or nothing, and she threatened to tear off any labels I put on the food to indicate which food i specifically planned to eat and which food I was OK with sharing.

She's saying (badly, and sideways) that she's filled to capacity and literally cannot manage one more thing.

Your grandma leans on her,... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by DarlingBri at 2:29 AM on May 27, 2024

I was going to suggest ice cream, but I looked at your list and you've got sour cream. Ice cream isn't going to work if sour cream didn't work. There's not a damn thing you overlooked. It's all there between Blue Buffalo and Canned pumpkin.

You didn't forget anything that might have worked. You've tried it all.

You've tried really, really hard.

Yes, you have tried everything.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Jane the Brown at 1:57 AM on May 27, 2024

The two foods you didn't list: baby food that's pure chicken (or beef), and eggs. Boiled, but very soft. Ideally still slightly warm.

I know you can't let go until you've tried everything, that's normal. Be brave enough to ask your vet, though, whether it's time. I listened to my vet and let my friend go, and while I regret some parts of her last day (mostly that I didn't immediately realize how she was feeling and missed precious moments with her), I never regret that I... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by toucan at 5:57 PM on May 26, 2024

This was the hardest point for me with most of my dogs, because it went so slowly we kinda got frogboiled into increasingly strained acrobatics trying to get enough calories into dogs that might even be very intrigued by the offer of handmade chicken nuggets and rare meatballs but after one enthusiastic snarf would turn their head away or lay down.

My vet had a checklist:
expensive wet food then
cheap wet food then
people proteins and... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Lyn Never at 4:58 PM on May 26, 2024

What do you know that I don't?

That it's time. But I do think you know that. I'm sorry.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by mhoye at 4:07 PM on May 26, 2024

Your dog is dying. Cancel everything. Sit next to them. Order canned cat food on instacart, put on music both of you like, and hold their paw.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by toodleydoodley at 3:14 PM on May 26, 2024

oh hey look gender affirming medical care is fine when cis people do it
posted to MetaFilter by The demon that lives in the air at 11:19 AM on May 29, 2024

For examples of how Kid Rock demands the kid gloves treatment (which the media readily gives him), do a Ctrl-F for "racist" and "racism".

who has since thrown his lot in with an overwhelmingly white political movement criticized for its racist rhetoric, would have a white butler named after a racial slur aimed at Black people who are overly accommodating to the white establishment.

No one ever says... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by AlSweigart at 10:01 AM on May 27, 2024

I've said this before, but all my life the Democratic ratchet has been, "vote for us, we're not as bad as the GOP", and then the GOP gets worse and the Democrats chase them either for their own financial advantage or out of idiocy and then we're once again at "vote for us, we're not as bad as the GOP".

If you had told me, just starting out my voting career by voting for Bill "let's destroy the welfare system and cut the floor from under the... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:43 PM on May 29, 2024

The big picture: It looks like inflation and the higher cost of living — indicators not typically part of the recession call by the NBER — could be shaping Americans' views.

I've lost track of the number of "WHY are STUPID AMERICANS convinced that THE ECONOMY IS BAD" articles lately, and it's like, I live in a household where we have two white collar jobs and a small mortgage and our budget is extremely tight now because everything costs a... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 11:47 AM on May 29, 2024

The ultimate point here, which is that chaos agents benefit from low trust, is important. Like, whether the people polled here stay home (likely) or go and vote for Trump or RFK (not unlikely, let's say), Trump benefits, America loses.

The system really is broken. Young people really are fucked. The US really is in decline on the world stage. Like, "The Economy" is great but the benefits aren't felt... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by uncleozzy at 11:28 AM on May 29, 2024

That "America is going downhill" question needs a lot of qualifiers. I don't think it's going down hill because gay people can marry. I think its going down hill because Donald Trump and his Nazi friends aren't locked up in Guantanamo.
posted to MetaFilter by Abehammerb Lincoln at 11:22 AM on May 29, 2024

I think a lot of Gen X progressives are still actively voting, but are disillusioned all the same. This is because of the Democratic Party's continued belief that maybe just maybe bipartisanship isn't dead.

This means that only the most right center candidates generally win, when we'd need slates of fiery leftists with bold policy ideas to actually drum up any voter enthusiasm.

We just keep watching our party drift ever rightward.
posted to MetaFilter by DirtyOldTown at 10:48 AM on May 29, 2024

Jesus.

No, it is not Putin and Tik-tok. Shit is really fucked right now, has been fucked for sometime, and no institutions have an interest in unfucking any of them. It’s pretty plain to see everywhere.
posted to MetaFilter by Artw at 10:45 AM on May 29, 2024

People are definitely saying plot holes when they really want the irrational rationalized. Kate even says something about this - we see the inexplicable and we make up rules to make it make sense. The episode wants you to put things together without giving you definitive answers. I know this sounds like a cop out, but it is the episode telling you how to watch it.

I dunno. Maybe being a fan of Twin Peaks, I've come to be okay with no rational explanations for things.... [more]
posted to FanFare by crossoverman at 4:38 AM on May 28, 2024

If you are thinking about other stuff during movie watching all the time, I would check to see if you have enough down/unstructured time in your life to just sit and think or walk and think, and add some of that. If watching a movie is the only time you put distractions like your phone aside, it makes sense to that you would find a bunch of thinking about other things coming up while you are sitting in a quieter space trying to lose yourself in a film.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by lizard music at 1:21 PM on May 27, 2024 marked best answer

Pie Weights For No Man
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Glomar response at 1:07 PM on May 27, 2024