Amidst The Ghosts Of Its Fallen Figures: With the 20th anniversary of the Seattle scene's insurgence fast approaching, Exclaim! follows the timeline of Mark Lanegan, the scene's poetic misfit. During the grunge era, Lanegan fronted Screaming Trees - lost somewhere in the middle of the Seattle pack and mostly known for their contribution to the Singles soundtrack. In the wake of their breakup he ...
posted to MeFi by mannequito at 7:37 AM on February 10, 2009

The 'Killing Me Softly' Story - made a worldwide hit by Lauryn Hill and the Fugees, it starts with a Don McLean concert in Los Angeles ... ...which was attended by a young singer-songwriter named Lori Lieberman, who told .... Charles Fox and Norman Gimbel about the feeling .... .... then is picked up by Roberta Flack .... and then covered by The Fugees, with Lauryn Hill's vocals - and they ... (keyword in HTML)
posted to MeFi by the man of twists and turns at 11:10 PM on June 7, 2018

I broke up with a guy after five months because he wasn't fully committing to the relationship, but in retrospect I think I acted impulsively because I was afraid he was losing interest and about to reject me. We've hung out twice since the break up and both times were amazing. I want to get back with him but he no longer will commit to being exclusive. Is there any hope of getting back into an ... with him? I wrote about this situation in a previous question, in the more immediate wake of the breakup. I'm a 32 year old woman, was dating a 35 ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 8:20 PM on June 25, 2017

I ended a complicated and messy friendship a few days ago, and now I'm a wreck. I'm having enormous trouble processing my feelings and understanding where all of it is coming from, accepting that I've made my decision, and moving on. Did I overreact? Did I make a mistake? What should I be learning from this? What questions should I be asking myself? What else am I missing? I cut things off with my ... about it from a mutual friend. T and I hung out a little while after that and talked about his breakup, but I didn't want to bring up the possibility ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 12:30 PM on June 24, 2017

I was unceremoniously dumped just before the holidays by the person I thought I'd marry. After a decade of putting the needs of my partners first and my own needs second, I've vowed to spend 2019 getting to know myself better. In particular, I want to get past the mental hurtle that I can't do certain things (like travel, or buy my own house) without a partner. Please give me your best ... or Australia). All suggestions and advice welcome. I'm trying to react to this significant breakup with optimism and hope, but it requires a huge ...
posted to Ask MeFi by tealcoffeecup at 7:51 AM on December 26, 2018

I'm pretty bad at keeping in touch with people. How can I cultivate low-maintenance friendships? What's the minimum required to keep a friendship alive over time? I'm decent at making friends, but can't seem to keep them long-term. As long as everyone's living nearby, things are fine, but when they move away, the relationship dies pretty rapidly, no matter how close we were at parting. I ... mind at all being called on for isolated stuff like moving assistance and airport pickups and post-breakup shoulder-crying; it's the constant, ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Bardolph at 3:06 PM on June 5, 2008

I feel extreme embarrassment and anxiety after some fairly harmless oversharing. There's the context of trauma though. Help me recover from this. It's been a year since I went through an pretty traumatic breakup with someone with some narcissistic tendencies (read: lying, gaslighting, unkindness, confusion). I was re-traumatized several times in the immediate aftermath when I indiscriminately ...
posted to Ask MeFi by miaow at 8:40 PM on August 1, 2020

How does the dumper feel? Most of the posts on this forum are about dumpees and how to deal with the pain. How the one that initiated the breakup is an idiot, doesn't know how lucky he is, will come to regret it later...etc. But what about dumpers? How does it go for them? For example, I've experienced horrible guilt and a lack of self-worth for inflicting pain on someone I love. But there's ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 2:31 PM on April 1, 2010

I can't break up with my girlfriend. I've been dating a girl for a year now. We've broken up twice now. The second time, as soon as we got back together I realized I had made a mistake. That was almost six months ago. I've tried to break up several times now...I've lost count of how many times. Each time she talks me out of it, and I relent. I haven't attempted it in several months, ... . Asks me if I want to die alone, accuses me of not being able to love. She behaves as thought the breakup never happens, comes to my house. Insists ...
posted to Ask MeFi by TigerCrane at 5:41 PM on December 31, 2007

I feel really undervalued and unappreciated in every arena of my life. I'm already in therapy. What can I do to quiet these feelings? My boyfriend of six months recently dumped me because he said he didn't love me. My best friend ditched me again to have dinner with her girlfriend after she told me she would have dinner with me, so I didn't get to to out for Thai tonight and ate a microwave dinner ... used and unappreciated. This was a problem before I got dumped - I think it contributed to the breakup. I never felt unappreciated by him, but I ...
posted to Ask MeFi by sockermom at 8:21 PM on October 28, 2013

Brief summary: do you have any anecdata (or actual data!) on whether a person can move from seeking validation from external sources (e.g. romantic partners) to seeking validation from internal sources (e.g. developing a solid, positive self-image, achieving personal goals), and HOW this is best achieved? More inside... My partner of nine years and I recently broke up. One of the maaaaany painful ... I learned during the breakup was that, 1. I seek MOST of my personal validation from my romantic partners, and, 2. This ...
posted to Ask MeFi by julthumbscrew at 12:01 PM on March 31, 2017

How do you deal with the loss of what turned out to be something you never had? Social engineering relationship question I found out that an evolving intimate written relationship - call it a penpal - was a social engineering game. I was the "real player" between two teams, one whose goal was to make me leave and one whose goal was to evoke enough emotion to make me stay. I am in a ... . Luckily I am not there and much older. Any advice welcome - this is neither a conventional breakup nor a traditional loss. ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 11:19 AM on April 6, 2011

I can't believe I'm starting this thread. I can't believe that I came home tonight to the most gloriously Metafiltery of Secret Quonsar gifts! Late 2015 and all of 2016 was a really challenging time for me when a friendship / sort of crush on my part (realized only belatedly) ended suddenly and without any warning at all. It hurt (still hurts). It was the community here that kept me going--I ... I reviewed every relationship/breakup Ask Metafilter post since the beginning (thank you, dear MeFites, for sharing your ...
posted to MetaTalk by apartment dweller at 9:57 PM on November 14, 2016

Getting divorced in Illinois. I still love my husband, but cannot remain married to him for many reasons, one of which being that I can no longer take care of him emotionally and financially without ruining my own life. My first instinct was to try to settle this using mediation or collaborative divorce (I don't even understand 100% what this is, honestly). Mostly because I feel enormously guilty ... and am more able to pay. He also said that he thinks he's going to end up getting screwed in the breakup. This is the point when a tiny voice in my ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 12:06 PM on September 3, 2015

I am living in limbo in my relationship, not fully commiting or making efforts to make it better, but too scared to end it too. If I decide to go "all in" what sort of things should I do to make this relationship work? I am a 39 year old man in my first long-term relationship, which has lasted almost 6 years. We are a good match on many levels and I do feel loved, I have no complaints ... I decide to end it then my actions are fairly straightforward although I imagine dealing with the breakup and the guilt will be anything but. However ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 8:16 AM on July 31, 2009

Please give me some hope. I'm 32. I am going through a bad break up. The relationship lasted 1.5 years. It's been only a few days since the break up and I'm trying to act normal and go about normal life even as I find myself tearing up in my stupid cubicle at work. I do not plan to ever have contact with the ex again and so far have had no contact since the breakup. I need to make a clean ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 9:08 AM on February 17, 2011

You live near but not with your long-term partner, with whom you have a loving, stable marriage-like commitment but no plans for future cohabitation. How do you coordinate your lives together, especially if they're super-duper intertwined? What do you keep at each other's houses? How do you navigate the low-key logistics of plan-making together? Give me your advice, tell me your tales and ... now slightly less so? (To head off any speculation re living separately as the precursor for a breakup, it's not; we're in an intense, expensive ...
posted to Ask MeFi by tapir-whorf at 12:10 PM on February 8, 2018

When you're in a long term relationship or marriage, how do you deal with feelings of jealousy of other couples seemingly endless "honeymoon phase"? Been with my boyfriend for 3+ years, living together for over a year. I love him very much and he loves me very much back . He is a great partner for me that is loving, supportive, funny, and keeps me on my toes. He both challenges me and ... you had more of what someone else has in your relationship. I am not looking for advice to breakup with the bf just to chase that feeling, because ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 4:29 PM on November 14, 2011

Discomfort with dating a very different type of person, or red flags, or something else? My last (and most significant) relationship ended a little over a year ago, and I've been dating quite a bit for the past 9-10 months. I'm a female in my mid-30s and most of my previous partners and dates are science- and engineer-types, ranging from their mid-20s to early 40s. The current man I'm dating ... on and off over the last 10 years and have benefited a lot from all of it. I processed my last breakup in therapy for about 6 months. I currently ...
posted to Ask MeFi by mild deer at 4:49 PM on February 19, 2020

I can't get out of the relationship I'm in with my girlfriend. Normally, it would just end. Parties would walk away and that would be that. But it's just not that easy with her... This relationship is a rocky one. We have our good times. We have our bad times. We have times that are just outright drama. She has some emotional issues I didn't discover until a couple months in. And by then I was ... "floor" her with the truth on purpose. I've been trying for a year to 18 months to get a breakup to be her idea (Note: not all that time, ...
posted to Ask MeFi by runflats at 12:46 AM on September 22, 2008