To those of you in love: can it ever grow from hesitancy into the real deal? Or does it need to be BAM: we're mad about each other? I have been seeing a fellow for the last 3 and a half months - we met through mutual friends, were instantly attracted to one another, turned out to have a lot of things in common, and have been seeing one another since. But after the initial period of excitement ... . I spend much more time thinking about him than I should. I've been through a very momentous breakup earlier this year and being with him has helped ...
posted to Ask MeFi by oneaday at 12:10 PM on December 5, 2010

How to deal with the guilt of leaving a spouse with a house they can't afford? I am seriously considering divorcing my husband (who I have been with since we were both 17, married for 3 years). I think now that we are in our late 20s, we have just grown into incompatible people. I've been going back and forth (with my own therapist & in couples therapy) with whether there is any way we ... we've been together for all of our adult lives ... and honestly, neither one of us has ever had a breakup like this before. And the biggest issue ...
posted to Ask MeFi by catfood at 11:04 AM on February 3, 2011

I left a physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive relationship for the second time a couple months ago. It was the first romantic relationship i ever had, lasting from when i was 16 until March of this year (I am 40). I need some help. So more than half my life. Our 20th wedding anniversary was in May. The last time I left him a couple years ago (actually asked him to leave) it only lasted ... over the missing them part and the grief over giving up on something? I've never had a romantic breakup period so i suspect it's hitting me twice as ...
posted to Ask MeFi by TestamentToGrace at 8:12 PM on June 9, 2016

The standard recommendation for chronically single people is to learn how to be happy alone, and to not wait for a partner to do things you want to do. But I already do the things I want to do, and never enjoy myself nearly as much as when I’m doing those things with a partner. In fact, when I’m single, the frequency/magnitude of my day-to-day life enjoyment is dramatically lower than when I’m ... when I break up with someone, which is what tends to happen, even once I’m over the grief of the breakup. In addition, I know a relationship isn’t a ...
posted to Ask MeFi by deus ex machina at 10:03 PM on June 20, 2021

Seeking perspectives on a difficult situation regarding dating/relationships and serious illness. I've found myself in a complicated situation, and this one isn't really in the dating books. I'm posting here just to gather some perspectives and experience in case anyone here has dealt with anything remotely similar. I'll describe the situation below. I'm a 36yo single female. I dated a man for ... in a different context. Before the self-imposed break was over, and only about a week from the breakup itself, he contacted me to let me know he'd ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 11:18 AM on March 6, 2006

The man who composed the soundtracks to cult video games Mother and Earthbound, Keiichi Suzuki, has a crazy-ass pop duo. It's more wonderful than you would ever expect. Unless, of course, you know Suzuki already for his other new band, Controversial Spark, whose Hello Mutant is the best Rock Band song not available on Rock Band, and whose other work is pretty much a continuing succession of ... amount of concert footage which sums up their career from the early 70s through their 2011 breakup. The material's uneven, but some of it's fantastic, ...
posted to MeFi by rorgy at 10:47 PM on April 19, 2016

We're both in our mid 30s. GF and I (male) always knew that our levels of physicality differed. At the beginning of our relationship, it didn't seem like an unfixable problem. Now, it's huge. She tends to (often, not always) find physical contact invasive - she's not really a hugger with her friends, accidental and benign contact with strangers or acquaintances is an irritant to her, and she's ... her, and I'm at a stage of my life where a longterm partner and stability are important to me. A breakup would be a heavy blow right now. I keep ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 3:26 AM on August 23, 2020

Is my best friend growing apart from me, or is she throwing herself headlong into a seriously unhealthy relationship? Here's the background: I've been friends with this girl - lets call her Betty - for a little over five years now. We've been calling each other best friends for three. The transition from college to the real world (a year and a half ago) was surprisingly easy on our friendship. ... or not the girlfriend is good people, it's entirely possible that the two of them will have a bad breakup and she won't want to see Betty anymore. If ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 7:52 PM on November 23, 2008

I love my boyfriend and enjoy his company. He loves me a lot. Why then do I feel on edge when I'm near him? [this will get long long looooooooooooooong...] My boyfriend and I have been together nearly nine months. He is my first relationship; I'm his third. We've had typical ups and downs, but we've always enjoyed being with each other and we care for each other. We both live on campus and see ... love him if I'm feeling that way around him, blah blah. I can't win either way!! Even with this breakup thing, it's like: Side A: Break up with ...
posted to Ask MeFi by Anonymous at 7:30 AM on May 9, 2007