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Spotify stats notwithstanding, it appears as if self-reported openness to new musical experience is alive and well in Metafilter-land.
posted to MetaFilter by kozad at 5:38 AM on April 26, 2024

"Why don't they just..." implies that people who are experts have negligently overlooked this trivial solution.

This is where I'm reminded of Harry Shearer's definition of an expert: a talkative fellow from out of town.
posted to MetaFilter by Rash at 8:53 AM on April 25, 2024

(Apologies, this got long)
Oh this hits so close to home. Not for me, but for my wife. We both came to running later in life (I was 35, she was ten years older than me and started a few years later when she was almost 50). When we were first married, running meant running to the store to buy a pack of cinnamon rolls to split.

But after we started running, we both fell in love with being active, for different reasons. For me, it was the first time... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by gmatom at 6:22 AM on April 24, 2024

I feel his passing aptly marks the end of an era in which consciousness was very actively discussed and people really thought we might have the answers soon. That optimism hasn’t lasted and the debate has quietened.
posted to MetaFilter by Phanx at 11:10 PM on April 19, 2024

"Only a rich person who never, ever faces even the tiniest consequence for their actions would start from "humans are completely fungible"."

That's the least charitable way to express the idea.

A notion at the core of traditional (western) deontological and utilitarian theories is not that people are fungible, but, rather that no one person has more intrinsic moral standing than any other person. Which is... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by oddman at 11:03 AM on April 18, 2024

We are unable to be cheerful that someone got a good job that pays well in her context because we don’t know her.
posted to MetaFilter by Tell Me No Lies at 7:40 AM on April 9, 2024

As on (occasional) marathon runner I endorse all of jedicus suggestions.

But, as a total fusspot, I would most appreciate a gift certificate to my nearest local running shop. Anything you have on your body for 42.2km has to be "just right" or it will drive you mad — so I like researching and trying things on myself.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Klipspringer at 12:25 PM on April 1, 2024

I have some invites left if anyone needs one.
posted to MetaFilter by goatdog at 5:22 PM on April 1, 2024

Just keep the conversation going, your job is not to applaud their originality but to engage in the ideas, even if they weren't cited. "Totally! I heard Mr Pundit said something like that too, but he also thought XYZ. Do you agree with that?"
posted to Ask MetaFilter by barnowl at 12:49 PM on March 25, 2024

By the statistics I see, the sub I founded is in the top 3-5% on the site by membership. I've been moderating online spaces since the 90s and my philosophy is that a well-moderated space with a clear philosophy tends to lead to more discussion at more depth. Oh, and don't give in to rules lawyers. That's what attracted me to MetaFilter over 20 years ago. I think the size and ongoing nature of the sub I help run is a testament to that as it's quite a bit larger than most comparable ones.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Captaintripps at 8:59 AM on March 21, 2024

Thanks all for a lovely time.
posted to MeFi IRL by chazlarson at 2:54 PM on March 16, 2024

It's a small fraction of your net worth? Donate to something it'll be a large fraction of the budget for, and in the future gaze upon the results fondly.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by teremala at 11:17 AM on March 14, 2024

She is supposedly there to speak directly to the "women of America" - and by women of America we mean white, middle-class, child-bearing, Christian women. HOWEVER, I don't think she nailed it because who she is really speaking to here is men. She's showing men what their women can be, ought to be, will be if they vote for these fuckers. See, that's how a woman should be. Smart but still in the kitchen. Very pretty, but not too pretty. God-loving so you know she is a traditionalist who... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by amanda at 1:07 PM on March 9, 2024

I think that this is a bad case to put before the supreme court and it's only going to make things worse. It would be nice if that weren't true, but it clearly is. What's going to happen is that the SC will rule that Trump can be on the ballot for [reasons] and that will cut the legs out from under any complaints about or action against January 6 people in general. It will set a precedent that it is basically okay to have people try to storm Congress because they don't like... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 7:34 AM on February 8, 2024

Thanks to everyone who has responded so far. It sounds like it would be much better to do a switch to immersion at age 3 or 4 rather than two part time options. We have public four year old preschool (not immersion, but apparently decent) in our neighborhood and we may want to do that so I think I just got itchy to get the immersion in while can. I will be patient instead and maybe do immersion for ages 3.5-4.5 or something.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Sophiaverde at 10:18 AM on January 29, 2024

"How come nobody posts on Metafilter anymore?"
posted to MetaFilter by bondcliff at 4:04 PM on January 9, 2024

Also, can I point out how ridiculous it was that I had to carry out my own nuanced messaging campaign in this very thread to win support of a single person who, by being a co-member of this website, should be on my side, but who assumed bullshit animosity from me?

Like jeesus. I should NOT have to work this hard to have a friendly conversation amongst what should be assumed to be a friendly crowd.

If this is how life is being approached by people... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by hippybear at 8:38 PM on January 5, 2024

Offshore Wind has real potential to displace oil and gas, and rapidly.

It also increases Oil's labor costs--politically we are not allowed to have offshore wind in Louisiana yet, but already the wind power development in the northeast US is contracting welders and Louisiana shipyards that normally serve only oil and gas.

The capitalist press will never report on this labor conflict. But this labor conflict is central to understanding how to... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by eustatic at 8:58 PM on January 3, 2024

I like Substack has a Nazi opportunity by Popehat.
posted to MetaFilter by Slothrup at 7:02 AM on December 23, 2023

I’m concerned about the policy around not linking to transphobic publications. Because truly that’s like … every major news organization I can think of. Who is deciding what’s over the line? I absolutely agree with not linking transphobic authors, because I think that’s somewhat easier to judge. Although I have a similar concern - plenty of authors have past transphobic content who have learned and updated their views and are now good or at least tolerable allies. I can think of several... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Bottlecap at 11:47 AM on April 2, 2023

“My Marriage Was Never the Same After That,” Maggie Smith, The Cut, 28 March 2023

In 2016, I wrote a poem that went viral. My home life got complicated.

posted to MetaFilter by ob1quixote at 3:47 PM on April 3, 2023

I read the SKVentures article. As a professional software engineer of 30 years, I'm calling bullshit.

My field has gone through various waves of hype predicting its end. First there was the prediction that RAD (rapid application development) tools would kill it. Then there was the threat that offshoring to developers in India would destroy jobs in the US. Neither has made much of a dent.

Writing new snippets of code is the lowest hanging fruit... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by microscone at 10:33 AM on April 2, 2023

I've said it before, but it seems like this is an opportunity to bring Metafilter as it exists legally/on paper closer to what Metafilter is in the hearts and minds of the members and management. It will take some effort, it's causing a pause in some good things, but I think it will be positive in the end. There has been a mismatch between the technically-a-business structure and the more like a club/coop/nonprofit nature of the site for a while (at least since the googlebucks dried up). Even if... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by snofoam at 6:41 AM on March 31, 2023

Kwine, I am sympathetic to that position. There is an old expression that the average American commits three felonies a day - ie, few of us would stand up to a close legal review of our every action. I also find it somewhat annoying that many people have taken a strong pro-legal-compliance perspective here who, I think, don’t actually think that every law must be complied with scrupulously. Because this particular issue codes as “labor versus owner,” people have strong pro-law views, but if... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Mid at 6:00 AM on March 31, 2023

I have accepted that I have no influence over world events, and if things truly get That Bad I’m probably screwed no matter what I do. YMMV.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by vanitas at 10:14 AM on March 30, 2023

You seem to assume a lot of current and potential hostility from this woman that perhaps isn't there. That's understandable. Instead of giving her the cold shoulder, which you are, if you actually want to engage in any sort of human connection with her you could answer her questions or simply return her questions.

"I have some personal reasons for wearing a mask that I don't want to discuss. I'd like to get to know you otherwise though. How is x.y.z going?... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by desert exile at 5:40 AM on March 30, 2023

Define in more than one word what you mean by attraction, at least to yourself since you're anon.

I think a lot of men literally don't know there is more to attraction than the eyeballs-to-boner pipeline, and it's up to you to build an actual palate of appreciation for your real actual human farts-and-all partner rather than just expecting to coast all your life on grunty primal urges.

There should be a point in a serious... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Lyn Never at 7:51 AM on March 23, 2023

Because they want to control the information about tech to sell you bullshit, this is a hostile takeover

Amazon took over DPReview in 2007. Did their dastardly plan to suppress its information (and sell a lot of cameras) take fifteen years?

I'm sad to see this site go but it's not hard to see why. Small niche site for a dwindling market, a business that never made sense for Amazon given its scale or its bespoke nature. You lay... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Nelson at 2:21 PM on March 21, 2023

The tone of your post strikes me as weak and placating - you are quick to assume that everything that happened is your fault and you need to apologize and fix things. Well, maybe not 100% of everything but I"m guessing your inner critic is telling you that it probably is pretty close to all your fault and you should just quit.

I want you to take a minute and assume you are an alpha male and none of this is your fault. If it isn't your fault, whose fault is it? Go... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by metahawk at 3:00 PM on March 18, 2023

I was thinking about this overnight and two things occurred to me:

1. It feels like you're reaching for a "real" "medical" reason why you can't date women over, say, 35 - like, Something Chemical has changed and they are therefore, sadly, objectively unattractive to you because they don't have enough estrogen. Which is why you're assuming that women are post-menopausal at forty - it can't be culture, it can't be you, it must be... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Frowner at 6:03 AM on March 10, 2023

I think the solution is for YOU to become more attractive yourself by working on your personality, social skills, physique and more so these younger women actually want to date you. I'm a curvy almost 40 year old who has literally a neverending list of men of all ages to date on the apps. Don't feel bad for being ageist because you like what you like; also, we "older" women don't need you to like us because we have plenty of other options who find us sexy and interesting. A right swipe... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by smorgasbord at 10:00 PM on March 9, 2023

I had my kids in mid/late 30s, too. It's a huge adjustment & that first year was so hard, but it does get better.

Have you joined the Metafilter parenting group on Facebook? It's a great group of people with kids at many ages & stages. Message sestaaak to join.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by belladonna at 8:05 AM on March 6, 2023

I've watched that hour-long video from the SC now. But to be honest I feel like we've entered some kind of topsy-turvy Bizarro World.

Originally I thought the Steering Committee was set up to be an elected set of user representatives, with a low workload, setting high level priorities.

Instead they are, or have become, a set of jack-of-all-trades volunteers doing an exceptionally high workload. That includes things like: setting up an accounting... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by TheophileEscargot at 10:19 PM on March 2, 2023

Hello! I have, since 2005, been mostly a lurker, but I am also the person who organized the yearly winter gift drive for a number of years. It took a lot of time and effort, but it was so rewarding. I stopped doing that not because of MeFi culture or any of that, but because our parent organization, during the pandemic, stopped their public campaigns and moved to corporate sponsors. They're still in that mode. Otherwise, I'd still be doing it.

One thing that strikes me... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by houseofdanie at 9:22 PM on March 2, 2023

Love you Forever
posted to Ask MetaFilter by papergirl at 6:54 PM on February 26, 2023

Could it be Chrontendo ("Every Nintendo Game In Chronological Order") (YouTube channel)? By Doctor Sparkle?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by brainwane at 11:46 AM on February 24, 2023 marked best answer

I have a friend group that group watches Star Trek and we two of our own rituals/games:


When the enterprise goes to warp and it cuts to the ship in space you throw your arms up in the air and say "wooosh" just as the ship warps.
Anytime you hear "captain's log" you have to touch the nearest piece of wood. First person becomes the captain until the next "captain's log".
Saying, "He's fully... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by forbiddencabinet at 10:39 PM on February 21, 2023

Infini-D

I can't believe I just launched, in my browser, a piece of software I worked on, can't believe I just opened the "About Infini-D" popup and saw my name scroll by along with all my old friends and co-workers from more than a quarter century ago. I can still see their faces, when they were young, when we were all so young.
posted to MetaFilter by gwint at 8:12 PM on February 12, 2023

I love giving new tech managers advice, but this isn't a question of how to do management better. This is a how do I find the energy to find a new job question. This is not a positive environment to be in and no amount of managerial skill is going to get you out of it. Hopefully, you aren't stuck for visa issues and you are just looking at a market where a lot of layoffs were just dropped so balance sheets and Wall Street would approve.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by advicepig at 1:21 PM on February 8, 2023

I don't want to be the only one to say this, but: you're out of there. You don't work there anymore. It's not your problem or your territory. Don't try to stay involved, don't reach back to stir things up. You're out, be happy and stay out.
There are two rules I was told by a co-worker on the verge of retirement, years back: when you quit, no matter what they offer, leave; and when you're gone, be gone.
I've broken both rules. The best case is people think you're an... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by AugustusCrunch at 3:03 PM on January 11, 2023

"Governments aliens should sterilize people who want kids"

"The one child policy is good, actually"

"More authoritarianism, but the *opposite* of fascism"!

I don't know, man. Your vision of the future doesn't exactly convince me that ecofascism can't exist. Also, I know you're very excited about cannibalism/forced sterilization/violent anti-pollution interventions, but I'm not sure every... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by sagc at 10:56 AM on December 30, 2022

You are not ready to be in a relationship right now.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by cakelite at 9:43 AM on December 21, 2022

I would back burner this friendship. No need for a dramatic exit, and there is value to maintaining some level of connection to someone you’ve known for this long, but I wouldn’t give her access to my real life anymore. There are loads of people to be friends with in this world and 85% of them will be nicer than this one.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by HotToddy at 3:52 PM on December 21, 2022

I really do not appreciate the anti-cop sentiment around here.

Tell them not to be ridiculous drama queens who lie all the time then.
posted to MetaFilter by Artw at 7:24 PM on December 14, 2022

We moved to Austin, TX for an academic job, and five years later fled TX because it was awful and seemed like a horrible place to raise our kid. He's 'normal' so far and we're white but my concerns were much more pervasive and broad-spectrum than 'just' safety of trans people and women and POC.

Yes uprooting and fleeing was bad for my career. Great for my overall sanity and quality of life though! Highly recommend, would flee TX again except I'll never live there again.
posted to MetaFilter by SaltySalticid at 6:29 AM on December 14, 2022

At the end of the day, history comes for us all. Americans have no living memory of having to flee their homes because of external events, and this entire thing reads as bargaining. Maybe that sounds uncharitable and I don't mean it to; I'm just tired of Americans thinking that they are immune from reality. Yeah, it sucks having to abandon your home and your career in search of physical safety; but that's something that millions of people have to do every single year.
posted to MetaFilter by rhymedirective at 6:20 AM on December 14, 2022

There are two things at work with Joe Pera: the character, and the show built around the character.

The character functions as a lot of others describe above. But I personally fell in love with the show, which is brilliant.

The reason I fell in love with it is mostly not that I thought it was hysterical. It's that the show is built around treating Joe Pera sincerely as a real human being, and thus it's constantly showing you that the simple... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by billjings at 3:27 PM on December 12, 2022

Yeah, but it's hosted on Twitter, so no thanks?
posted to MetaFilter by Abehammerb Lincoln at 10:12 AM on November 15, 2022