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I saw The Peanut Butter Falcon by accident, and damned if I wasn't uplifted.
posted to MetaFilter by fairmettle at 12:27 PM on September 24, 2023

There are no Hal Hartley movies. Also Eurovision: Song of Fire and Ice which has got to be one of the most upbeat movies of recent history. Everyone is so nice. Watch it.
posted to MetaFilter by misterpatrick at 11:45 AM on September 24, 2023

Characterizing Mexico as "a rough and tumble lawless country" is... something.
posted to MetaFilter by aneel at 6:55 AM on September 24, 2023

How does your behavior change once you “let down your guard”?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by St. Peepsburg at 11:59 PM on September 23, 2023

I think a search term you might want to look for for shirts would be "drop shoulder". That's going to give you that relaxed look that you can see in the La Piscine pictures you posted, as well as the Sting picture (but not the Serge Gainsbourg). If you look at the shoulder seams on top, you'll see that for La Piscine and Sting, they both hit below the shoulder, rather than on top (as in the Gainsbourg).
posted to Ask MetaFilter by damayanti at 7:40 AM on September 24, 2023

My daughter texted me a week ago to ask how often I thought about the Roman Empire, and my first response was to confirm she didn’t actually want to be pointing a camera at me before hearing my answer.

When I told her it was normally just a couple or three times a year, but coincidentally had included the day before, she was incredulous. She asked why. I said we are American citizens in 2023, living through the decline and fall of the American empire. Why aren’t you... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by pwinn at 10:42 AM on September 23, 2023

Sure, it’s fun to think about the Roman empire, but have you ever tried thinking about a plate of beans?
posted to MetaFilter by TurnKey at 10:30 AM on September 23, 2023

It seems you want her to:
Not pee when you made plans (?)
Always shower before dates (is there an actual hygiene issue? what does that look like if you’d ever move in together?)
Not speak or laugh too loudly
Never (?) have PDA around coworkers (what is she doing? Trying to hold your hand? Kiss you?)
Can’t ask you for favors that you find to be “too big of a pain in the ass”
Has to coordinate better on any errands... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Crystalinne at 10:21 AM on September 23, 2023

Please dump this woman so she can pee without someone resenting her for it. Yikes.

I'm coming at this with a "historically I am not a long term relationship kind of person" perspective but no it has never once worked out for me when I've dated someone I'm annoyed by.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by phunniemee at 9:01 AM on September 23, 2023

BREAK UP. Every time you tell her you love her, you are gaslighting her.

Your contempt, disrespect, and dislike towards her normal manner of existence (omg how fucking dare she PEE before leaving the house!!) absolutely precludes any possibility of love.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by MiraK at 6:56 AM on September 23, 2023

Oh my goodness, you definitely don't need to talk to her about this. You just don't like her! Let her be with someone who does.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by shadygrove at 6:43 AM on September 23, 2023

I cant see how ‘doesn’t shower before dates’ and ‘PDA in front of colleagues’ adds up to ‘can't really care for and support me in the way I need.’

You listed a lot of actions — laughing, reaching, going to the bathroom — and call them a personality problem. But those aren’t personality traits, really. They’re just actions. Anyway, I think you don’t really like her and you want to make that her fault so you’re not a jerk who dumps a perfectly nice person. That’s fine,... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by meowmeowdream at 5:52 AM on September 23, 2023

reaching out for PDA around my colleagues when I am not really comfortable with that.

I have seen this a lot from men who seem to think their girlfriends are not quite enough of a trophy to impress their buddies. And she may be reaching out for reassurance because she feels you pulling away a little.

If that’s part of it for you, I encourage you to let it go as much as possible, because once your feelings deepen it won’t... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jamjam at 3:21 AM on September 23, 2023

Just remove it because it lack citation. I am very sorry for your loss.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by If only I had a penguin... at 6:04 PM on September 23, 2023

Also, how do I prove those details wrong when it's impossible to prove a negative?

You answered your own question. Wikipedia does not allow original research - true or not. Wikipedia does not use "truth" or "falsehood" as a metric for articles - instead, they go off of verifiability. As you've said, those statements are not verifiable.

I would simply remove the incorrect statements with a note in the edit... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by saeculorum at 6:02 PM on September 23, 2023 marked best answer

They cursed one another and Fran and their tools and the job and the house.
But they never quit. That was the power. You could call it whatever you want.
They never quit, and the hour came when I was working upstairs in my office.

Reads like a prose-poem. ʻAlī Riz̤ā Zarrīn once told me, better to be a good plumber then a bad poet. nice find.
posted to MetaFilter by clavdivs at 5:34 PM on September 21, 2023

Ziwe is a national treasure
posted to MetaFilter by tatiana wishbone at 8:00 AM on September 22, 2023

Ziwe has such a particular voice that I can hear her speaking as I read the piece. (If you do not, go watch a Ziwe interview and reread.)
posted to MetaFilter by grandiloquiet at 7:54 AM on September 22, 2023

It's a good article and funny.

I was aware of foot fetishists (how could I not, they are the butt of so many jokes) but not of the foot wiki site. That seems like both a tremendous service to that community, and also such an inappropriate way to commodify public women. But of the ways to commodify women, like compared to those sites that post upskirt/voyeur/revenge photos or the ones that do "deepfake" porn, this seems further towards the benign end of that... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Dip Flash at 6:00 AM on September 22, 2023

It gets to me that small is one of the good things for a woman's foot to be. I talked with a woman who crippled herself by wearing shoes that were a size too small.
posted to MetaFilter by Nancy Lebovitz at 4:55 AM on September 22, 2023

That was surprisingly imteresting and entertaining), on a topic that I likely would not have been interested enough to click on, were it not for Just the one swam, actually’s comment piquing my curiosity a bit more.
posted to MetaFilter by eviemath at 8:31 PM on September 21, 2023

Prior to reading this I had not known of the existence of Ziwe or wikifeet. I am happy to be informed of the existence of one, and mildly horrified by the other. Of course I had to check. She now has a score of 4 out of 5 (“nice feet”). I don’t know whether that’s a victory.
posted to MetaFilter by Just the one swan, actually at 7:59 PM on September 21, 2023

With almost every beloved 80s comedy, there's stuff that makes us cringe today. There are rape jokes, there's racist stuff, creepy conservative undertones, etc. Offhand I can't think of any jokes in this movie that would be super offensive to a modern audience, and that's pretty remarkable for a big, loud, coked-up 1980 comedy with a bunch of National Lampoon guys involved in it. It's still the fun, crazy movie you remember from when you were a kid, without those moments... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Ursula Hitler at 5:12 PM on September 22, 2023

Definitely going to watch this. I lived in Chicago from 1977 to 1982--in other words, from the time that Animal House blew up to a few months after Belushi died--so I think that you can imagine how big of a deal he was in the lives of me and my peers at the time. I never saw him in person, although I knew people that had, or claimed to have had.

One thing that I occasionally think about, though, is that, after BB had finished filming, he was... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Halloween Jack at 4:50 PM on September 22, 2023

This movie is the first movie I ever bought for myself. I used to walk on the regular to the Blockbuster in the little strip mall with the Kmart across the street from the Cumberland Farms and just before the Jo-Ann Fabrics to rent Blues Brothers. A lot and finally when the tape appeared in the used video bin, my mom let me have it, mostly because she was sick of renting the thing. :)

And yes, like the latter comments, this movie introduced me to a lot of great music and... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by drewbage1847 at 1:57 PM on September 22, 2023

I like the movie as much as the next person but it's worth keeping in mind that the recklessness and disregard for safety that Landis brags about in this short (driving cars 100MPH down streets lined with people) would kill two children and actor Vic Morrow a few years later while making Twilight Zone: The Movie.

For a deep dive on the subject, check out Outrageous Conduct.

He has also supported his son, Max, who has been... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by dobbs at 10:48 AM on September 22, 2023

I actually have a private Facebook group supporting each other through this. We actually named it after the hashtag I got on social media from Mexican Yenta!

It's been a real lifeline to have a little support group as we go through it and can vent or share resources.
posted to MetaFilter by advicepig at 12:37 PM on September 21, 2023

A lot of us have parents who to varying degrees emotionally or physically abused us or have grandparents who are openly racist or homophobic and aren’t going to change. Caring for people is for the most part an obligation and not dignified in any way.

For me, it's the expectation that I will provide care regardless of the fact that neither of my parents ever seemed to really give a shit about my mental or physical safety. How am I supposed to... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by cooker girl at 12:09 PM on September 21, 2023

The bit in the article about being like the Little Prince alone on a planet resonated with me. In my experience, eldercare can be extremely isolating, especially right around the time of death. That palliative time is very moment to moment in a way that no one else is quite living around you. And then it's over and the world suddenly speeds up around you while you kind of blink back into it. But then you are moving at the slow pace of grief, so you're still quite isolated in a lot of ways.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by eekernohan at 10:50 AM on September 21, 2023

Recently did a kind of a speed run of this… I live in the US, my folks are in the UK, we would video calls every so often and for a couple of calls my mum seemed off… a lot older, somehow diminished. My mum has never seemed old to me. A few weeks later I get a call and she’s gone in to hospital with pains and breathing trouble. The next call and it’s the worst news: cancer and it’s basically gone everywhere.

So there’s a frantic rush to sort out some transport paperwork,... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Artw at 10:16 AM on September 21, 2023

Everybody here is raising excellent points. Add to all of the above that your entire past with your parent accompanies you on this particular journey. So when your parent is refusing to, say, eat the food that the nursing home provides because they don’t like it, but said parent was a fanatical enforcer of the “I am not a short-order cook and you will eat it whether you like it or not” rule, it can push your buttons. A lot.

And that’s just the day-to-day parent-child... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by corey flood at 7:53 AM on September 21, 2023

Unfortunately the answer is often 'because it is'. Old people are different from kids in size, and strength, and are (IMO) afforded a high level of assumed autonomy even when they are physically or mentally unable to use it anymore - retained respect I guess.

And the tools are less - less daycare, transport is harder.

Most of us aren't trained nurses either, not yet inured to the unfortunate indignities of dealing with aging parents.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by The_Vegetables at 7:33 AM on September 21, 2023

I can see the point, but people laugh about their kids doing hilariously gross and/or annoying things because they know that in most cases their kids will grow out of it and whatever it is is a phase that will pass. Elder care only gets worse and the end result is almost never a healthy, happy, independent grown-up who might even remember to call you on your birthday. It's a lot harder situation to find humour in.
posted to MetaFilter by jacquilynne at 7:26 AM on September 21, 2023

Taxi: "Reverend Jim: A Space Odyssey"
posted to MetaFilter by indexy at 2:17 PM on September 19, 2023

WHAT, NO STEP BY STEP? Pure trash.

I still contend that the S1E1 episode of Cheers is the best-written half-hour pilot, and maybe comedy episode ever. It introduces every character and the vibe of the bar perfectly. This may be complicated by the extinction of most of the Your Show of Shows episodes, and that The Dick Van Dyke Show might not have any standalone episodes.
posted to MetaFilter by rhizome at 2:09 PM on September 19, 2023

No Young Ones' "Bambi," no peace.
posted to MetaFilter by delfin at 2:04 PM on September 19, 2023

On the comedy side, Frasier deserves a slot for "The Throne," Newsradio for "Arcade," and sneak in The Good Place's "The Trolley Problem." (Sitcoms tend to rely a lot more on preestablished characterization so I guess it's more challenging for them to have episodes that really feel standalone.)
posted to MetaFilter by praemunire at 1:44 PM on September 19, 2023

Almost half this list were first aired in the last 10 years. Recency bias in action yet again.

Also, "The City on the Edge of Forever" isn't even the best Star Trek standalone.
posted to MetaFilter by rhymedirective at 1:10 PM on September 19, 2023

I've always been partial to The Good Place, S02E02, Dance Dance Revolution. That episode could have been an entire season.
posted to MetaFilter by Mister Fabulous at 12:38 PM on September 19, 2023

As God as my witness, I thought turkeys could fly
posted to MetaFilter by scolbath at 12:11 PM on September 19, 2023

I'm not happy about this list. Life Time, the M*A*S*H episode where they repair an aorta with a real-time clock on the screen, is not on it.
posted to MetaFilter by seanmpuckett at 11:41 AM on September 19, 2023

I wish they’d credited the writers. For instance, “Chuckles Bites the Dust” was written by the great David Lloyd who also wrote some of the finest episodes of Frasier, including the brilliant “Ham Radio”, when Frasier Crane directs a radio play. Incidentally, I’d absolutely have put that on a list of best tv episodes.
posted to MetaFilter by Kattullus at 11:14 AM on September 19, 2023

For someone who has sinuses that really make it difficult to breathe through the nose, I would be concerned about the potential of mouth taping to reduce oxygen levels and cause more problems than it solves. (And I say this as someone who uses mouth taping while using a nasal-mask CPAP machine, but that combination means that enough air pressure is coming in to the nose that routine congestion is not a problem.) Another quite safe thing to try would be nasal irrigation, whether with saline... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Creosote at 10:30 AM on September 19, 2023

But how many music fans searching for Beethoven or Mozart on streaming are picky about conductors and orchestras?

Did they really write that?

Case dismissed.
posted to MetaFilter by senor biggles at 1:53 PM on September 16, 2023

Coming soon: My open letter to the one person who (I believe) is best equipped to take the lead in solving this problem. You might find this surprising, but her name is Taylor Swift.

I am waiting impatiently for this.
posted to MetaFilter by chavenet at 1:09 PM on September 16, 2023

I belonged to a Facebook group for people who have left AA. There is a huge problem in AA with predatory behaviour, a lot of newly sober people(mainly women) are vulnerable and predators seek them out. A lot of which gets sloughed off as 'the 13th step', etc, and I posted about Brand last night in the group because he is such a prominent AA and sobriety figure.
I ended up leaving the group today because of the sheer amount of vile comments defending Brand, essentially saying that... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Phlegmco(tm) at 3:27 PM on September 17, 2023

AAAAAAAAARRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHHH. I'm just so sickened by the fact that it might be "Not all men!"(TM) but it's a hell of a lot of men. Goddammit.
posted to MetaFilter by BlahLaLa at 11:59 AM on September 17, 2023

No.

From here:

"A salesman entering property by a path or walk used by visitors may recover for injuries received from a dog which could not be seen. [FN27] If a dog is visible or if there is a "beware of the dog" or similar warning sign, then an entrant who does not first call or contact the owner or a resident on the premises before entering would be in the position of a trespasser and unable to recover if attacked by... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by NotMyselfRightNow at 10:57 AM on September 17, 2023

Historical linen (which might be flax or hemp or nettle) isn’t linty at all, but a lot of modern ‘linen’ (which might be flax or hemp) is processed by chemically breaking it down into short fibers. The process is called cottonization, and it’s intended to make the fibers suitable for processing on equipment optimized for cotton. It also makes for short-lived and shed/pill/lint prone cloth. Basically fast fashion-enshittification of linen for both clothing and household textiles.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by janell at 10:45 AM on September 16, 2023 marked best answer

Is there an agency supervising the home who you could call? Report them / ask for an audit? I realize this might be unrealistic but I'd be tempted to go over their head. The home management might well be stealing the cash.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by M. at 9:39 AM on September 16, 2023