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I’m getting the sense some people commenting haven’t read the article and are using this thread as platform for continued SF-bashing when literally the article sort of critiques the current conventional obsession of rampant street crime in San Francisco while ignoring the crime of the billionaire class and tech industry that have wholly taken over the city since at least 2010.

In fact, all the things people initially saw as uniquely San Francisco issues like... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by flamk at 8:53 AM on February 6, 2024

Some of the comments here talking about crime make me wonder if people bothered to RTFA. It says:

Levels of violent crime are actually lower in San Francisco than in many American cities. Theft is a bigger problem, but like homelessness it has been exacerbated by the tech boom, which brought an influx of well-paid workers and a steep rise in housing prices over the past three decades, as well as by nationwide economic shifts and cuts in social services since... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by splitpeasoup at 8:36 AM on February 6, 2024

Not a one of you has mentioned the only true saint in this show, Da. Grandpa gets redeemed in the end hopping out of the polling place with his granddaughter, but no one remembers, cares about, idolizes the long-suffering Gerry. The sweetest, most patient, kindest character of the lot. And even here he gets a short shrift. *sigh*
posted to FanFare by Stanczyk at 4:14 PM on October 19, 2022

Yeah, just shotgunned the whole of season 3 and the special/finale over two nights, totally worth it. Really should have rewatched the previous two seasons as a lead-in but I know I'll do the whole works again in a few months. So many thoughts but I do hope they've left the door open for a 'Derry Women' catch-up in a couple of years, taking advantage of the actual ages of the lead actors (all now in their late-20s/early 30s) to do a 10-to-20 year time jump. Maybe James follows through on his... [more]
posted to FanFare by hangashore at 12:04 PM on October 11, 2022

I love this show. The girls (and wee English fella) felt like friends to me, I will miss them and felt sorry to say goodbye to them but the person I loved the most was Sister Michael, an absolute legend.

Such a beautifully localised and specific look at a place and time. I felt like Derry Girls treads that fine line that exists between comedy and sincerity so deftly, without ever feeling embarrassing or too much. Just a wonderful show.
posted to FanFare by unicorn chaser at 5:13 PM on May 20, 2022

Absolutely golden Sister Michael moment.

"Listen, I'm not goig to make excuses for these kids, but life has dealt them a very cruel hand, and they're living with a very serious condition. Truth is, Declan, they're from Derry."

"Oh, God. Well, that's punishment enough, I suppose."
posted to FanFare by The Underpants Monster at 10:06 AM on May 5, 2022

Aisling is so much more talented than Jenny.
posted to FanFare by Julnyes at 6:51 PM on April 23, 2022

Liam fucking Neeson! I had totally forgotten he was Northern Irish, so what a perfect cameo.
posted to FanFare by ellieBOA at 10:15 AM on April 15, 2022

Sister Michael continues to be one of my favorite characters. "You will go far in life, Jenny... But you will not be well-liked."

Me, too! In episode 6, when she wanders the empty halls of the school, I swear that's an approving smile on her face.
posted to FanFare by Mogur at 10:40 AM on August 8, 2019

Among all the things that are great, the Dead Poets Society English teacher made me laugh.
posted to FanFare by ChuraChura at 11:29 AM on August 5, 2019

The drama surrounding MIchelle's mother's Big Bowl was exceedingly well-observed and hilarious.
posted to FanFare by Rock Steady at 4:54 AM on August 5, 2019

PICK A YEAR.

I dunno, I'm exactly the same age the girls are supposed to be in the show as well (man does the music take me back!) and to me the timeline inconsistencies are extremely reasonable in service of narrative efffect and give the whole thing a kind of affectionately hazy nostalgia (I myself can't quite remember if the Cranberries were the soundtrack of my sophomore or junior year) rather than mockumentary accuracy.
posted to FanFare by TwoStride at 6:00 PM on August 4, 2019

The excruciating earnestness (and pitchiness) of Jenny and her friends singing at the school assemblies, and Sister Michael's begrudging announcements are just absolutely perfect.
posted to FanFare by TwoStride at 8:03 PM on August 3, 2019

As someone who, in 1994 when the show is set, was herself attending Catholic secondary in Ireland this show has it down pat. I have the mrs driven mad. The details are spot on, my favorite being perhaps that the fella yer wan fancies, yer man with the band, appears to be smoking one of those stupid bloody beedi-cigarettes I was also smoking in 94.

Just watched the finale, and was surprised to find myself tearing up at the gutpunch of the last scene and bawling when the... [more]
posted to FanFare by Iteki at 1:25 PM on February 10, 2018

I'd try to drop the mindset that you need anyone's permission to define the relationship you want to have with your father. I also think you should consider that you don't need to make a decision about that right now, in the midst of what sounds like a significant breakthrough in healing from your mother's abuse.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by sm1tten at 9:12 AM on February 5, 2024 marked best answer

How do we let go and let my son make terrible choices?

Unless his job is in the drug trade I'm not sure this is a terrible choice. It's a choice that has some risk and is anxiety-producing. (I'm assuming working from a bungalow means he's working from home at remote work?)

Anyways...your son is 27, so this is the day you let him make his own choices. You say "wow, son, this makes me a bit anxious but I support you. Do... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by warriorqueen at 12:36 PM on February 5, 2024

Forget the little cute fun webpages - lately I've even been seeing BUSINESSES forgo a web page and they just get an instagram instead.

Which drives me NUTS because: I'll hear about a new restaurant in my neighborhood, I'll wonder "ooh, I wonder what their hours are or what the menu's like", and I'll go online to look - and then I'll find that this new restaurant does not HAVE a web site, it only has an Instagram page, where I can go and look at curated photos... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by EmpressCallipygos at 7:22 AM on February 5, 2024

For children 15 and under, puberty blockers and hormone therapy for the purpose of gender reassignment or affirmation is not permitted, except for those who have already started those treatments.

This is ridiculous - cisgender girls are regularly and routinely put on puberty blockers to delay too-early puberty.

If it's safe and reasonable to use puberty blockers for an 8/9 year old cisgender girl to avoid premature puberty,... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by chariot pulled by cassowaries at 8:45 PM on January 31, 2024

There is no action (other than the action Ilana gets from Hannibal Burress - hey-o!) per se, but Broad City is a very funny show about two women who are best friends and trying to "make it" in NYC. Their lives are chaotic and messy, but things generally turn out OK and the show has a real tenderness to it. I particularly enjoyed the way it centered a type of love (friends/found family) other than romantic.... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Rock Steady at 12:33 PM on February 2, 2024

Same, saw the b&w version last night and it is superb.
posted to FanFare by chimpsonfilm at 9:17 AM on January 30, 2024

The article says:

In Poland last year, almost half of men aged 18-21 backed the hard-right Confederation party...

In [South Korea's] 2022 presidential election... young men swung heavily behind the right-wing People Power party...

...and then it says that the reason is:

The #MeToo movement was the key trigger, giving rise to fiercely feminist values among young women...

So... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by clawsoon at 4:09 AM on January 28, 2024

I'm fascinated by the number of people who can treat "Women don't want to date men who think they're lesser beings not entitled to basic rights" as some weird riddle to crack.
posted to MetaFilter by DirtyOldTown at 7:41 PM on January 27, 2024

> Should you have kids together, they will be afraid of him (what's unsettling to an adult is terrifying to a small child).

I wanted to highlight this bit from Praemunire's comment because I have sooooooo much first hand experience with this.

I married a man who struggled with emotional regulation (among other things). He understood and acknowledged that he needs to regulate his emotions better. All through our 11 years... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by MiraK at 2:44 PM on January 24, 2024

You don't have to live with someone you're afraid to live with even if a book says it real nice.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by phunniemee at 1:06 PM on January 24, 2024

> I feel like that's maybe a better statement of the problem

Noted Silicon Valley dimwit Paul Graham posted on Twitter on this trend of increasingly conservative men: "If people choose spouses with similar beliefs, as they tend to do, then straight women who don't identify as liberal will have a huge advantage."

To which someone replied, "Funny how he doesn't frame this as conservative men being at a... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by AlSweigart at 6:10 PM on January 27, 2024

They're releasing Godzilla Minus One Minus Color (a remastering, not just slapping a filter on the film) this weekend.
posted to FanFare by praemunire at 3:48 PM on January 23, 2024

Went to see this yesterday with daughter and we both loved it. Never thought I'd be tearing up at a Godzilla movie, but here we are.
While it's comforting to occasionally see one of the "Godzilla is our protector" stories, i think I prefer the Godzilla is a wrecking ball and a problem that needs to be solved.
My very favorite moment was Noriko's sacrifice. The timing of her shove and then the blast that took her offscreen was perfectly done and completely... [more]
posted to FanFare by OHenryPacey at 9:19 AM on December 11, 2023

I took Fleebnork Jr to see it last night, as he is a huge Godzilla fan. It was very good, much better than I had anticipated. The human story was poignant, and Godzilla’s heat ray was more terrifying than before, with its nuclear blast that follows.
posted to FanFare by Fleebnork at 6:15 AM on December 2, 2023

IT IS SO GOOD.
posted to FanFare by lapolla at 6:07 AM on December 2, 2023

I just walked out of this movie! It was so good! The effects are great! It has real human scale stakes, while it also has a giant lizard smashing a lovingly recreated 1940s Tokyo! It's, like, a real movie!
posted to FanFare by chrchr at 9:35 PM on December 1, 2023

I know many people don't like Sisyphean narratives, but there is something very Sisyphean about being a vampire. It is very central to the show. And like Sisyphus at the apex and climax of his journey, we are both like and unlike the vampires. The more things change, the more they stay the same. You can never cross the same river twice, but all rivers flow to the sea. I enjoy the commentary about nature - both that there is something inside of everyone, and that everyone is who they are.
posted to FanFare by rebent at 3:13 PM on September 6, 2023

That's a fair point, Atreides. The Guide's attempt to fit in was exactly what set this whole plot in motion. She does have potential uses to drive the story forward, but too often she just seems to be sitting there like, "Hey, remember me? I'm on this show too!"

Cubeb, I don't feel like the show is punching down on the Guide, it's more of a Guillermo thing where she's constantly overlooked and they want us to sympathize with her. But it doesn't really work,... [more]
posted to FanFare by Ursula Hitler at 3:52 PM on August 30, 2023

Doug Jones is so good.
posted to FanFare by Nelson at 9:58 PM on August 25, 2023

So you work in an industry that is not heavy on public speaking, on a team that doesn't need to do public speaking except extremely occasionally, and you're not great at public speaking? That's fine. It's fine. It's really ok. No one rational expects everyone to be good at public speaking - in fact, I'd say half the population is mediocre-to-bad at it, a significant percentage loathes it, and it's the rare person who adores it and they usually self-select into roles with... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by restless_nomad at 9:49 AM on January 25, 2024

A friend of mine worked in a well-known experimental psychiatry-psychology lab, at a well-known psychiatry facility, and needed help for profound depression for years. As he said, "it's ironic to have a condition that magnifies every barrier and the only way to get help is from a system that has nearly insurmountable barriers to overcome." At his worst he'd know he needed help but couldn't get it, at his best he'd think "maybe that was the last time" and... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by rubatan at 5:14 PM on January 24, 2024

Pretty sure it’s the world ending and nobody doing anything about it.
posted to MetaFilter by Artw at 12:02 PM on January 24, 2024

Yglesias' thesis here is total neo-liberal individualism bootstrapping BS. As a progressive adult and academic, I can promise you no one is "valorizing" depression and encouraging young people to lick their wounds and feel sorry for themselves. Instead we're frantically trying to apologize to young people for the predictable outcome that decades of social/political/economic/environmental neglect and government-backed abuse has wrought on anyone who is not White, cis gender, male, and... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by sleepingwithcats at 12:00 PM on January 24, 2024

"Depression is not the answer" is, well, a horrible take. Depression is a symptom. Nobody goes "I'll just start being depressed because that will make things better." Depression is a thing that *happens* to someone. Whether they want it to or not.
posted to MetaFilter by evilangela at 11:50 AM on January 24, 2024

You are not the only one who defaults to thinking "theft!" every time something goes missing.

I hate losing stuff above everything but I lose stuff all the time. I aallwwaayyss default to "somebody stole it!" whenever I can't find something instantly. I mean always, with a quickness that seems atavistic. This is despite the fact that nobody comes in the place, anymore. I lost my beloved cleaning person years ago when she retired, and I live alone with... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Don Pepino at 10:02 AM on January 23, 2024

It's very common for objects to be put "away" in unfamiliar places. I lost our giant colander for several weeks after our amazing cleaner of many years had emptied the dishwasher. I knew she didn't steal it.

It's unlikely that anything malicious is happening... and not only because the risks of being accused of theft is too high to steal a mug or a washcloth.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nkknkk at 7:45 AM on January 23, 2024

They’d better have the “secret tunnel … through the mountains …” song, it’s my fave.
posted to MetaFilter by caviar2d2 at 3:53 PM on January 23, 2024

Was really hoping to see Cabbage Guy. "My cabbages!"
posted to MetaFilter by SPrintF at 12:11 PM on January 23, 2024

THIS WAS SUCH A HARD THING TO DO AND YOU DID SUCH A GOOD JOB. As someone who's been through a few versions of this, you stood up for yourself and did the difficult thing in a kind way. Please give yourself a high-five for me. You were not being cruel or unkind -- you were taking care of yourself (and her!) in the best way you could. You will get better at this with practice, but really, you did a GREAT JOB.

I want to share two resources that have been useful for me, and... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by ourobouros at 6:01 PM on January 16, 2024 marked best answer

I hardly slept last night out of stress over having to answer, and I've spent most of today curled up in a small a ball as I can in the corner of my home office crying and occasionally hyperventilating. I can't concentrate, my heart-rate is over 100 just typing this up (which is significantly calmer than I've been most of the day) and I'm feeling like a terrible person.

Your body knows that your mom is abusive, and is bracing for her to punish you for... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by heatherlogan at 5:33 PM on January 16, 2024

I think there’s a myth that setting boundaries and self care is going to result in a smoother, happier set of interactions. That isn’t how it goes a lot of the time.

I think you did what you needed to do and it sounds right for you. You mitigated the impact by offering to pay for a hotel room. Ethically, you’re quite in the clear here.

Relationship-wise, of course this came as a blow to your mum. She’s going through a terrible time. However,... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by warriorqueen at 5:26 PM on January 16, 2024 marked best answer

Oh, friend. You were not a jerk. You made a very good decision and communicated it directly and kindly and offered to provide help in another way, both with the finances and logistics.

I don't think you could have said it better or differently. And let's note that "wow" isn't a totally understanding response, but you are doing that thing of blaming yourself, and how you wrote the message, for her response. It's not a huge surprise that she's not happy, and... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by bluedaisy at 3:07 PM on January 16, 2024 marked best answer

As my grandma used to say about her senior suitors later in life: "They're just looking for a nurse with a purse."
posted to MetaFilter by keep_evolving at 6:02 PM on January 17, 2024

We binged this over the weekend, and really enjoyed it. Probably even more than the main Bridgerton series. The two-timeline structure worked really well, as well as the re-telling of the first episodes from George's point of view in episode 4. The young cast was amazing.

Although this was billed as a limited series, apparently they haven't ruled out doing another season. I think the biggest unanswered question that I really wanted to see answered is... [more]
posted to FanFare by jimw at 5:13 PM on May 8, 2023

I very much enjoyed Hiddleston's Loki talking about Shakespeare's new play really being about Iago.
posted to FanFare by synecdoche at 4:23 AM on December 31, 2023

I am so sorry that you lost your beloved kitty. Would it help to post a picture of Mirana in this thread? I for one would like to hold memory for her, if that would help you in any small way.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by mydonkeybenjamin at 8:08 AM on January 16, 2024