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Gated. Which is fitting.
posted to MetaFilter by zenon at 10:14 AM on January 30, 2024

That's not why they're being deprecated
posted to MetaFilter by DeepSeaHaggis at 3:57 PM on February 1, 2024

"'Originally, I messed up by not knowing you are supposed to empty and clean an indoor dryer vent lint trap instead of just pouring in more water."

You're pouring water into the lint trap?
posted to Ask MetaFilter by jonathanhughes at 7:26 AM on February 1, 2024

To piggyback on paper scissors sock's answer: the US remake of Ghosts is delightful. It's a very different tone than the original, a little less sarcastic of a sense of humor (less British, in other words), but it's every bit as good.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by pdb at 5:49 PM on February 2, 2024

‘Throw in a pesky gopher and we'll greenlight the pilot.’

I could see Rodney Dangerfeild playing trump in a satisfying way.
posted to MetaFilter by Liquidwolf at 7:51 AM on January 27, 2024

If Carroll gets the money I'd love to see her set up a fund so others that have been publicly targeted by TFG can get a lawyer. Hell, it would pay for itself after a few cases.
posted to MetaFilter by JoeZydeco at 7:43 AM on January 27, 2024

the interesting question is who will be the vp nominee who would become p when trump's advancing senility, or a stroke, makes him unable to even answer a yes or no question. evil folk may be planning a scenario like trump gets in office but takes an exit shortly thereafter and then there's a young compos mentis neofascist sitting in the garden
posted to MetaFilter by seanmpuckett at 6:16 AM on January 27, 2024

Of course, the big question now is, "Can Donald Trump raise 88+ million dollars for an appeal?". I think maybe the well's tapped out and he's not actually going to be able to put it up.

I think that depends on how badly Putin, the Saudis, et.al. want/need the useful fool back in office.
posted to MetaFilter by Thorzdad at 6:08 AM on January 27, 2024

He's about to be the presidential nominee. His devotees don't give a F if he's a rapist.

We new that. He basically admitted it in the "Access Hollywood" tape. All his supporters care about is "Owning the Libs" and his promise of "revenge" for...sharing the country with folks not like them, I guess?
posted to MetaFilter by MrGuilt at 5:54 AM on January 27, 2024

Surely this? Nope - it will be years before she sees a cent, and meanwhile he’ll continue on exactly as before.

One of the more interesting things about Trump’s legal issues is how he spotlights,
pretty much daily, how wealth and power exempt you from the law in the US in any meaningful way
posted to MetaFilter by ryanshepard at 5:16 AM on January 27, 2024

I am mystified by the idea of a toad infestation bothering anybody, but stipulating that you don't want toads in your garden, I do hope you're planning to let them go somewhere that is an appropriate habitat. Toads are great!
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Lawn Beaver at 7:40 AM on January 26, 2024

I hear this construction from people in northern Rhode Island (the "cradle of the industrial revolution" Blackstone River valley), of French-Canadian extraction.

And it drives me nuts.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by wenestvedt at 10:04 AM on January 27, 2024

This also exists in central Indiana and my husband's family insists never ever ever in upstate New York.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by cooker girl at 8:23 AM on January 27, 2024

I don’t use this construction at all and it struck me as jarringly off when I started noticing it, maybe 10 years ago; but Google does yield examples of things like “demolished” and “planned” as well as “cooked,” “fried,” “eaten,” “chewed,” and others that don’t seem particularly maintenance-adjacent.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by staggernation at 6:34 AM on January 27, 2024

> Might make a cynical person wonder whether the law per se is really the social norm they’re trying to enforce.

what we think of as "law" is actually a subset of crime

is one of the many things that i will carefully avoid saying if i'm called up for jury duty
posted to MetaFilter by bombastic lowercase pronouncements at 2:28 PM on January 24, 2024

1. like, thank you for your service! because that is so fuckin' cool. plus 10,000 points to you. at least 10,000 points
2. i really hope i get called up for jury duty at some point, because i am good at making moderate reasonable mouth noises when it means there's a small but non-negligible chance that i get put on a case where i can keep someone's life from getting wrecked

posted to MetaFilter by bombastic lowercase pronouncements at 2:26 PM on January 24, 2024

okay good

but will I be fine
posted to Ask MetaFilter by The Adventure Begins at 9:35 AM on January 23, 2024

Grrr, I had composed a long detailed attempt at an answer only to have my browser crash.

The short version is that I assume that the drummer was a session musician in the studio employed by the label Colpix. Since according to the story on Vocal Groups Hall of Fame*, the group was snuck (sneaked?) in to make the recording. And my research found that the producer of the recording, Stu Phillips, is still alive at 95 and he can apparently be reached via email according to... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by terrapin at 8:03 AM on January 23, 2024

running for VP this whole time.
posted to MetaFilter by heyitsgogi at 12:53 PM on January 21, 2024

Man, fuck that guy and his whole deal.
posted to MetaFilter by Going To Maine at 12:39 PM on January 21, 2024

I understand the passion but no one has suggested that trans kids are entitled little shits, and it is unkind and inaccurate to suggest anything like that. Thanks for the additional links, those are awesome.
posted to MetaFilter by Bella Donna at 12:11 AM on January 18, 2024

This is progress, and progress is incremental. But no one is free while others are oppressed, and I feel like girl scouts are still being implicitly taught that it's ok to exploit others to achieve their goals. Organic and fair trade and direct trade and things like that are all very accessible in this age. People are obsessed with girl scout cookies, selling a more ethical cookie would not be a hard sell.
posted to MetaFilter by aniola at 1:12 PM on January 16, 2024

This is great! Because of financial and calorie constraints, I could only order cookies from one girl scout. So difficult to choose!!!!! I finally decided to buy from a seven-year-old raising money for her troop's first camping trip, but I hope they are all successful in reaching their goals.
posted to MetaFilter by pangolin party at 7:02 AM on January 14, 2024

I used to pay for multiple streaming services until a buddy hooked me up with an account on his pirate server.
It is amazing and even has a UI that lets me search for just about anything and it goes and finds it and puts it on the server, sometimes within minutes.
posted to MetaFilter by Dirk at 8:27 AM on January 15, 2024

I've never been married which means I pay all my own expenses and I haven't been able to accumulate significant wealth

As long as you don't have kids, you're still probably in a better position than you would have been had you married and divorced a spendthrift or wastrel husband...

Well, yes it's probably better than if I had kids, but having no one to split expenses adds up quickly. Mortgage, electricity, car and gas,... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Melismata at 1:14 PM on January 18, 2024

The article is largely about women at or near retirement age who may have been married before and or have grown kids who don't want to risk their fat 401k and cozy retirement plans by legally burdening themselves with a husband who is (as stated so well above) quite likely to be looking for a nurse with a purse.

One of the interesting aspects of this for me, an aging never-married woman is that I don't have a fat RRSP or cozy retirement plan because... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by jacquilynne at 7:40 AM on January 18, 2024

I still have a dream of buying adjoining duplexes so we keep our own spaces but see each other all the time.

The number of people in my family or that I just know where the woman has the house and the man has the driving shed/shop space/barn/basement/man cave/etc. and it is unusual for the the other person to spend much time in the primary person's space I can't count on two hands.

Obviously a big dose of misogyny there... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Mitheral at 7:34 AM on January 18, 2024

Huh. I assumed MonsieurPEB was being self-deprecating?

Same. I don't mind saying it, for myself. I am single, childless, unmarried. It fucking sucks a lot of the time. I ended a 12-year relationship a couple years ago, for what it's worth. But a companion to just talk about your day with, to take out the dog once in a while, to run to the pharmacy when you're sick, to share financial burdens, to have a shared history!... sounds really nice. And it is... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Glinn at 7:24 AM on January 18, 2024

Huh. I assumed MonsieurPEB was being self-deprecating?
posted to MetaFilter by humbug at 5:19 AM on January 18, 2024

Oh hey, it me. Current guy is definitely not ready for remarriage, and I don't see much need. He's got 4 grown kids, I've got one almost adult, our resources after death are largely spoken for, and that's fine.

But if this works out we would like to buy a house together and I'm not sure how that works as unmarrieds.

I still have a dream of buying adjoining duplexes so we keep our own spaces but see each other all the time.
posted to MetaFilter by emjaybee at 9:55 PM on January 17, 2024

The comment by @MonsierPEB is just awful.
I beg all involved to leave the comment there so that all the world can see this man's bigotry.

I have the feeling that I’m missing something here. If I’m not then a) we don’t know the gender of the poster and b) the comment seems out of place enough that I suspect some clarification would help.
posted to MetaFilter by Tell Me No Lies at 9:51 PM on January 17, 2024

Both of the men I would have joyfully married took a pass on me. (In one case that was probably best, but not the other.) What can I say, I took the hint.

Maybe some of the women saying "no" to marriage today were also told "no" themselves in the past, and finally just said "well, okay then".
posted to MetaFilter by EmpressCallipygos at 8:50 PM on January 17, 2024

I've already outlived both of the men I married (and divorced); I wonder just how common that is? I joke with a long time lover, now just a friend, that he was lucky I didn't marry him - he's still alive!

Must be why I'm not looking for marriage to my Other Half...I like him too much to jinx him.
posted to MetaFilter by annieb at 3:25 PM on January 19, 2024

Decidedly NOT fancy, but I used to have a dish of strawberry bon bons on my desk at work because people loved them. Specifically people loved the look. They'd go "ooh! my [grandma/auntie/beloved next door neighbor lady] always used to have these!" and there you had your conversation opener. The strawberry candies call to people.

A quick google suggests there are a lot of manufacturers so you may be able to find one ethically sourced to your preference.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by phunniemee at 11:48 AM on January 20, 2024

I used to cat sit for a friend when she went on trips. The first week, the cats wanted nothing to do with me, but by the second week, they’d gotten lonely enough / used to me, and would come out of the woodwork to socialize. I’d probably follow the cat’s lead.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Blue Jello Elf at 7:47 AM on January 18, 2024

regarding the terra cotta pot suggestion above - even with coarse sand I might be a little concerned about Roberto thinking that you're providing a toilet for him...it's a lovely thought though.

Cats have 'denning instincts' which is why they generally love cardboard boxes (and maybe terra cotta pots). They also typically love warming pads. There are some all-weather types that exist for sale :-)
posted to Ask MetaFilter by leemleem at 6:00 AM on January 17, 2024

Just about 4 episodes in, and this season has above and beyond redeemed itself. I'm loving the flash forwards to the kids - her daughter's affectations are the perfect imitation of Midge (kudos to the actor!).

I'm glad that we finally see acknowledgement that Midge isn't a great person, and definitely has flaws as a mother (but she's doing the best she can do at life). All of the parents are driving me crazy. oy! They're so much - they feel like... [more]
posted to FanFare by hydra77 at 8:06 AM on October 18, 2023

My only quibble is that Midge's spot at the mike was waaaaaaay longer than four minutes.

Almost seven minutes! I fumbled for my iPhone's stopwatch function just as she started talking, and my running time was 6:31.

But yeah, I'm with all of you. We almost didn't come back after S3 but I'm so glad we did. The ending was perfect. and I loved the time-shifting because it's great to see the long-term success and the grown-up... [more]
posted to FanFare by martin q blank at 1:45 PM on May 31, 2023

I am glad that the flash fowards seemed to acknowledge that Midge often was a pretty terrible, self-involved person. Part of what has always bothered me about the Palladinos' work is that while they give us flawed, complicated characters, they then tend to ignore that these are flawed, complicated characters. I don't mind some prickliness -- that's clearly why Midge succeeded -- but I don't like how the show presented her in such a way that seemed like we were supposed to approve of all of it.... [more]
posted to FanFare by edencosmic at 2:19 PM on May 29, 2023

I liked the way they toned her down at the end.
The middle seasons Midge became one of those Flanderized characters that are so unlikable you wondered how anyone would put up with them.

I liked that Suzie became successful on her merit rather than just riding one client to the top.

Prison seems like exactly the kind of thing that would happen to Joel.

The long hallway of dresses was great.... [more]
posted to FanFare by madajb at 10:42 PM on May 27, 2023

I'm into bikes.

Rando Richard reviews bike saddles, specifically in the context of very long bike rides. This is not quite to the level of obsessiveness and thoroughness that you might be seeking, since saddle preferences are inherently subjective.

Bicycle Rolling Resistance reviews bike tires.

Zero Friction Cycling reviews chains and lubes. They do sell products, but the guy who runs it has a solid reputation for... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by adamrice at 10:36 AM on January 11, 2024

I have lucked into the best doctor I've ever met or heard of in my life, which I am immensely thankful for. At the end of my appointment today where we had a tentative diagnosis, she said something like "Is there anything else you feel hasn't been investigated enough", and I was floored. This should be the standard, respecting the patients knowledge of themselves, but also, being not only open to, but interested in hearing if they have their own theories.
posted to MetaFilter by lookoutbelow at 10:40 PM on January 12, 2024

Jenfullmoon, yes -- I knew I had ADHD for years and developed a series of increasingly ineffective coping mechanisms over the years as doctor after doctor refused to test me for it because "you're too smart and high-functioning to need meds."

Until my GP started having to prescribe me sleep meds (trazodone) and acid reflux meds (protonix) because of the massive amounts of coffee I was drinking (to the point that I was vomiting at work every week, sometimes more... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Unicorn on the cob at 7:23 AM on January 12, 2024

Related, this tweet has stuck with me:

@rhymeswithvery
When a doctor dismisses my symptoms, I say I want it noted in my chart -- while I wait -- that *they've chosen* not to run any tests. They then run tests. I recommend this approach to anyone facing discrimination instead of diagnostics. (I have 2 autoimmune disorders.)
2:13 AM · Jul 26, 2018

posted to MetaFilter by fings at 7:16 AM on January 12, 2024

I once saw advice saying to describe how your problem affects your ability to participate in capitalism either as a worker or consumer.

Can confirm that when I had a joint issue and described being in pain I got a preliminary “we don’t give referrals at these appointments” appointment four months in the future with nothing else available, and when I said “Are you sure there isn’t anything sooner? The pain is waking me up more than when I had a newborn, and it is... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by tchemgrrl at 7:12 AM on January 12, 2024

But coming in with a singular desired diagnosis or treatment is, in my single humble opinion, not a good thing.

Yeah, asking for ADHD diagnosis went like that. How dare I suggest I have the issue, I suppose. And for those of you who insist that I'm autistic, I asked about getting evaluated for that several times and no doctors had any interest in evaluating me for that one. Most of them would not discuss the topic at all and the few that would said... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by jenfullmoon at 6:57 AM on January 12, 2024

I've heard from many other chronically ill people that

"My health issue inconveniences me, a woman" gets dismissed

but "My health issue inconveniences my male partner/husband" gets taken seriously. :(
posted to MetaFilter by chariot pulled by cassowaries at 6:51 AM on January 12, 2024

Followup tip: if you are marginalized because of your disability, gender, race, etc., try to bring with you a patient advocate against whose whose appearance, demeanor, etc. there's less systemic discrimination, if that's possible:

I've told the story here before of how my partner was going through a set of miserable symptoms and we were cycling through doctors trying to find one that would take her seriously and get a diagnosis. What ended up... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Dip Flash at 6:38 AM on January 12, 2024

This would be a good thread to share other scripts and tips about getting what one needs in a system designed to prevent you from getting it! We can take the railing and whinging against the unfairness of those systems as read.

I'll start. If you want to be diagnosed for adult ADHD, talk about how your sibling/parents had it. Even if you have to fabricate this. It's a lot easier to get a diagnosis if someone in your family also has it, because it's at least partly... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by seanmpuckett at 5:17 AM on January 12, 2024

"If you smoke, please try Carlton."
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Dr. Wu at 7:41 AM on January 12, 2024