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Actually, masculinity cannot be conferred from the outside, the only person who can make you a man is you. That's the whole point of the phrase "he is his own man', and why it's a compliment. Anyone trying to be somebody elses idea of a man is going to have a bad time.
posted to MetaFilter by Meeks Ormand at 5:44 PM on February 13, 2016

another Sotomayor, please!

or one that is similar, but not identical. a Sortofmayor.
posted to MetaFilter by hippybear at 2:35 PM on February 13, 2016

you can call it natural causes if you like but i personally think my 5,000 year old looted jordanian terracotta pot full of blood might have helped
posted to MetaFilter by poffin boffin at 2:17 PM on February 13, 2016

The only thing in your question that makes me think no is the whole Mon-Thursday travel in the future. Leaving a cat alone for over half the week, even with a daily petsitter (which are usually only 30 minute visits) seems a little sad.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by greta simone at 9:02 AM on February 13, 2016

qcubed, many transitioning transmen have trauma, past and ongoing, to go along with their new hormonal universe. I'm confused why you compare what they describe to your own situationally rough cis male teenage years and seem to not see a connection?
posted to MetaFilter by hollyholly at 12:38 PM on February 12, 2016

Okay, here is a thought, from a transmasculine person:

It might be that when you transition, you feel a need to be able to handle the "normative" aspects of your gender that is different, both politically and in its content, from how cis people might feel. There's all kinds of trans people, and folks feel all kinds of different ways about being able to "pass" - some people feel it's really important, some people feel it's really... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Frowner at 12:12 PM on February 12, 2016

Sometimes I feel like our culture(s) glorify masculinity but have a taboo against talking and thinking about the subject, except in the simplest terms. And I think that weird double-bind hits trans men extra hard.
posted to MetaFilter by thetortoise at 12:10 PM on February 12, 2016

TACT IS OVERRATED. Tact is the reason people continue to get away with behavior like this. Fuck tact. If you don't want him in your house, he doesn't get to come to your house.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by showbiz_liz at 6:08 PM on February 11, 2016 marked best answer

how is Sweden supposed to afford this?

This is the same argument used in the US about Mexicans: they are a drain on the treasury. But study after study has shown that immigration is a net GAIN for BOTH the immigrant and the accepting country. The mechanism is not complicated: make it very easy for people to get jobs and make housing inexpensive and everyone wins.
posted to MetaFilter by mikewebkist at 6:59 AM on February 11, 2016

Does The Whelk have like a men's fashion blog I can subscribe to
posted to MetaFilter by Gymnopedist at 10:30 AM on February 10, 2016

My friends with serious anxiety use benzos for these exact situations.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Kreiger at 8:21 AM on February 10, 2016

My therapist taught me the Emotional Freedom Technique. Stupid name but it really works. It uses pressure points and repetition.
You don't need any equipment, and it will probably get you composed. If it doesn't you probably could benefit from some Xanax.
Emotional Freedom Technique
posted to Ask MetaFilter by littlewater at 7:07 PM on February 9, 2016

My husband swears by and loves the boxer briefs from MeUndies; I also switched to their boyshorts for ladies and oh my god they ARE comfy. Fun patterns, they'll run you $16/a pair, and you can also get in on their design of the month club which is rad.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Kitteh at 7:10 AM on February 10, 2016

Case in point, I just took a snapchat of my tired face and pasted the word NARP on it (a word I didn't know until I read this article) in big letters sent it to my daughters and they all instantaneously replied "OMG" and "YEAH" and "I LOVE YOU DA" and "WUT".
posted to MetaFilter by sidereal at 4:36 PM on February 9, 2016

Yes, what was the was correct answer?

Me: Like Magritte?
Him: Who?
Me: ...I'm sure the bbq was fine.
posted to MetaFilter by phunniemee at 1:43 PM on February 9, 2016

The idea that emotions are composited from several different emotions, or artificially created because it is required by arbitrary, scripted circumstance?

That's how we Minnesotans live, man. We actually have a few presets. "That's different." "Oh hey now." And, of course, "I hear dem crappies are biting pretty good."
posted to MetaFilter by maxsparber at 10:48 AM on February 9, 2016

Milwaukee has relatively affordable rent. I can't imagine $500 is going to get you a particularly nice place anywhere (but maybe I'm wrong), but you can get a non-shithole studio in Milwaukee in a nice area for around $500. Milwaukee of course has good public transportation, liberal city, and two universities in the area.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Dalby at 4:37 AM on February 9, 2016

Anyone else feel like that half-time show was some kind of weird attempt to co-opt Beyoncé into some kind of everything's-fine racial harmony message?

did you miss the part where black women in leather and berets marched out in an X formation though

that kind of blatant message in the MIDDLE OF THE MOST WATCHED TELEVISED EVENT OF THE YEAR can't really be diminished by some scruffy middleaged white dude in a dirty sweatshirt
posted to MetaFilter by poffin boffin at 12:28 PM on February 8, 2016

> Uh...I'm finding myself kind of bristling at what you're saying here. You're sort of endorsing this notion that these are two separate cultural worlds, and that they just won't cross, no matter how poor a "middle-class" person becomes.

I hold that no matter how poor a middle class person becomes, they can never know the experience of having grown up in and having learned to expect a world that makes clear that the... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by You Can't Tip a Buick at 12:36 PM on February 8, 2016

Is this the year we'll finally be able to watch Puppy Bowl online? Sources are... unclear.
posted by phooky at 1:28 PM on February 7

Here you go!

And click here for Kitty Bowl live stream.
posted to MetaFilter by magstheaxe at 12:39 PM on February 7, 2016

"couldn't one or two of them be left in cribs duct-taped to planks and left in a closet while she dressed the others?"

FTFY
posted to MetaFilter by HuronBob at 12:39 PM on February 7, 2016

You're putting human wants ahead of animal needs.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by vers at 10:20 PM on February 6, 2016

I think that Beyoncé is pretty much the only person in the world who could tempt me to watch any part of any football game at this point. They should cancel the game and just have a Beyoncé concert.
posted to MetaFilter by ArbitraryAndCapricious at 8:25 PM on February 6, 2016

When my kids go to college I'm going to start an over 50 dance night. Hit me up in 2030 y'all.
posted to MetaFilter by Potomac Avenue at 5:06 AM on February 7, 2016

Meanwhile, "Red Lobster" is blowing up on Twitter and @RedLobster has no idea what to do about it.
posted to MetaFilter by straight at 3:47 PM on February 6, 2016

I hope they get to go back to alternative maps already drawn (but not adopted), otherwise some map guys are about to have two very shitty weeks. Redistricting is NOT QUICK WORK.
posted to MetaFilter by Eyebrows McGee at 7:26 PM on February 5, 2016

Threads and stories like this always make me feel like the two old coots sitting in the theatre box on the Muppet Show, yelling something about how I thought these things were supposed to make our lives easier.
posted to MetaFilter by The Card Cheat at 5:17 AM on February 6, 2016

Conflicting agendas in my noodle. Found the seduction scene gratuitous (and yes, that was pointed out as bullshit in the ep) yet I was thankful for Gillian Anderson/Scully taking clothes off.
posted to FanFare by fluffy battle kitten at 3:01 AM on February 4, 2016

I really like the "for any woman" part of the infographic. Because I know a lot of women who don't even have a uterus. So drinking and getting unintendedly pregnant would be big news. And the rest of this also bunk.
posted to MetaFilter by roomthreeseventeen at 1:45 PM on February 5, 2016

"There seems to be this endorsement of "tiny" stand alone homes as an alternative to group housing, apartments, and "conventional" pre-fab homes without an explanation as to why it's a better idea and independent of widespread market demand, like some type of viral marketing."
"Pictures of nicely designed miniature houses on nice rural pieces of property seem Martian by contrast to urban slum or decaying inner ring suburbs.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Eyebrows McGee at 11:53 AM on February 5, 2016

The problem with all of these tiny stand-alone house solutions is that they still end up with neighborhoods so sparse that residents are going to need automobiles.

FFS, have you seen the numbers for Hale County? The population is 15,760, that means unless you put the whole lot of them into one spot you're not really going to have a metropolis type situation. Of course they're going to need cars, or else be [forcibly I suppose?] relocated to an... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by RolandOfEld at 11:42 AM on February 5, 2016

I love that they have a sense of humor about this, but if I were sleeping dude I would be too mortified to ever go back to work.
posted to MetaFilter by orrnyereg at 1:38 PM on February 5, 2016

I'm four years away from a retirement plan that includes a small plot of land with a barndominium as a home base, a full-time quality fiver and a Volvo 780 tractor. So much America to see!
posted to MetaFilter by Standeck at 7:50 AM on February 5, 2016

I've been living in an RV (Class A motorhome, not trailer) for the last 9 months or more. The reason we started is complicated (involving last minute cross country moves and MUCH drama and some serious fly by night 'planning' and favour calling) but after the trip (28 states in 8 months, 19,000 miles) living in an RV is something everyone should do for a while. Seriously.

A mobile home is a bit different (they're static for a start) but living in an RV is on our list of... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Brockles at 4:03 PM on February 4, 2016

Checking back in with an update:
We've been using Ting for a few months now. I'm using an unlocked iphone 6 on the GSM network and so far, although the coverage isn't quite as good as Verizon, it's more than adequate for 99% of what I need. I also now have 3 bars of coverage at our house, whereas with Verizon we were lucky to get one. Go figure.

My husband uses an iphone 4 on the CDMA network and isn't quite as happy with his coverage. We're both OK with... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Gusaroo at 1:53 PM on February 3, 2016

....holy crap the guy who mansplained just responded to my comment, and APOPLOGIZED FOR WHAT HE SAID.

...guys I think I have superpowers.
posted to MetaFilter by EmpressCallipygos at 4:05 PM on February 3, 2016

Sigh. I must have worded this confusingly. I am looking for someone who *resembles* the blonde on the poster. Someone who is not normally dark-haired like Kate Micucci or Paige Davis. I am totally aware this is a poster of MARIA BAMFORD. That's whose Twitter feed I found it on.

There is an actress who looks like the drawing. I am trying to find her name. Please, no more guesses of MARIA BAMFORD.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by 41swans at 1:52 PM on February 2, 2016

This is why I eschew health foods and exercise. Have fun, eat a lot of food that comes wrapped in plastic from a factory with five smokestacks and a questionable environmental record, and have your shovel ready for the driveway during a blizzard in your 64th year.

I call this the Hostess Snack Cake plan. I should write a book.
posted to MetaFilter by maxwelton at 2:03 AM on February 2, 2016

Jesus Christ this is a depressing thread.

No! I find it heartening to see how many others have 12k in savings and look to suicide as a reassuring escape plan.
posted to MetaFilter by sandettie light vessel automatic at 7:41 PM on February 1, 2016

ANALYSIS/RATIONALIZATION/WEEPING Argh, if only Opus and Bill had a wider
constituency than fb!

Ack. Oop. PTHBPBPBPTHTTT!
posted to MetaTalk by zarq at 11:50 AM on February 1, 2016

holy hell that was an X-FILES EPISODE EVERYBODY, Scully does an autopsy "What do you think of this?" "Mulder you can;t possibly?" the SINISTER CATHOLICISM, the rural home full of MYSTERY, the straight up superhero stuff, the GENTLE RIBBING from the leads I gaaaaaaah.


I felt like I needed a dial up to an AOL server to talk about the episode. It wasn't GREAT but MAN it was THE X-FILES.

(I liked their different... [more]
posted to FanFare by The Whelk at 9:44 PM on January 25, 2016

1000 responses (well ok 300, because clockzero's estimate of 30% response rate is about right) - Do Not use open ended questions! Just don't. This is days and days of post-analysis and you will have a very hard time trying to find common patterns. Just come up with good choice items and maybe ONE open ended "anything else you want to tell us?" field at the end of the survey. If you must, offer an open ended "other" choice where they can elaborate, but... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by like_neon at 10:03 AM on January 26, 2016

"I'm sorry, I've got too much on my plate right now, so I can't."
posted to Ask MetaFilter by LobsterMitten at 8:13 AM on January 26, 2016

The episode could have used some subtlety, to be honest. It all seemed simply too straightforward and clear to the point of sounding as a joke, or a delirious rant of a conspiracy theorist, no matter that all of the theorist's declarations turn out to be true.

You're right, and it was so ham-fisted and ridiculous I thought that was where it was going: Scully was right, Mulder was too eager to believe and fell for this Alex Jones... [more]
posted to FanFare by Sangermaine at 1:55 PM on January 25, 2016

[Tim] Curry is alive, but he had a disabling stroke a few years ago. I can't say how his health is doing, but the effects of his stroke are very visible and I gather he is a long way from performing. If the good wishes of his fans count for anything, he'll be struttin' the boards again soon.

Apparently the good wishes of Curry's fans counted for quite a lot, as it's just been announced that he will play the Criminologist in a new television production... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by DevilsAdvocate at 12:20 PM on January 15, 2016

If you've never been in one of these places, and wonder why some people make such a fuss about meteor showers ... they were probably viewing them in one of these places.

If you live near one of those dark areas, just driving in their direction five or ten miles can help -a lot- with meteors. On a good year, with no moon, you'll understand the fuss.

Oh, and if the area is REALLY dark, you'll see that our neighbor galaxy, Andromeda, is *at least* 7... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Twang at 12:25 PM on January 25, 2016

Hey skinner I'd like to formally announce your membership into HOT DADS DOT COM. Yikes.

Mulder looks like he spent the last ten years sleeping in his car, for contrast.
posted to FanFare by The Whelk at 4:44 AM on January 25, 2016

Chris "Boy, I've never met a bit of exposition I didn't like, and here let me explain everything to you right now because, you know, people in the current Golden Age of Television don't want things like subtle dialogue or nuance, they want the revival of a 90s TV show to actually feel like an episode of 90s television" Carter really hasn't changed, has he?

I would watch Gillian Anderson read the telephone book; she might even be able to make us feel empathy for... [more]
posted to FanFare by crossoverman at 12:32 AM on January 25, 2016

How much does an interior door cost? For that price, you can buy your sanity back. Get a new door, cut a cat-sized mouse hole in the bottom. Install the old door back in the frame when you move out.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Lou Stuells at 12:05 AM on January 25, 2016

I found the darkest sky in the continental US quite by accident. Natural Bridges National Monument. I swear, closing your eyes to the full moon and you can see the insides of your eyelids, like when you were sunbathing as a kid. From the MOON!
posted to MetaFilter by notsnot at 6:39 AM on January 25, 2016