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You somehow managed to omit "Medicaid" from the relevant policies defended by the Democratic Party, which is impressive as it's the subject of this post.

Here's the funny thing about the ACA. If you are poor enough to qualify for the medicaid expansion (and your state has expanded it) then you can get, pretty much, free or close to free medical care, if you can find doctors and clinics that will treat medicaid patients. If you can afford a... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by ennui.bz at 9:39 AM on November 15, 2015

I think that's supposed to be a peace sign with the Eiffel Tower in the center? I don't see a Christian cross there, for what it's worth.
posted to MetaFilter by ArbitraryAndCapricious at 11:18 AM on November 14, 2015

>Daesh has limited ability to strike back at the western military forces hitting them in Syria and Iraq.

Untrue. They could target world military bases with suicide jihadists if they choose. They chose not to because they are terrorists and specifically target innocent civilians as a terror tactic.

Isis is not a victim here, limited in their abilities to fight back. They are making a very formalized choice to target innocents to spread... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by AGameOfMoans at 6:28 AM on November 14, 2015

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I've been crying and thinking about all this. In my social circle, people are posting hashtags and photos about the tragedy, most only for Paris, but some also post for Lebanon (45 dead) and Baghdad (14 dead). Even though it's almost halfway the world over, to see people sympathizing and mourning others whom they don't know, have different languages and skin colour not to mention religion and culture is a proof of some kind that we could care, at least superficially,... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by tirta-yana at 2:03 AM on November 14, 2015

Does anyone know why France has been the target of at least 3 recent terrorist gun attacks

Paris is the #1 city in the world for tourism, so if you're going to strike at a European city then Paris is probably your best bet for worldwide psychological impact.

So many people have either been there themselves or been subjected to friends' and family's vacation photos of the city that an attack on Paris feels more personal than an attack on most other cities.
posted to MetaFilter by Jacqueline at 6:56 PM on November 13, 2015

It's reminiscent of Mumbai style attacks
posted to MetaFilter by madamjujujive at 3:43 PM on November 13, 2015

2000$ may not even cover the damages, especially if stuff was smashed. It sounds like this guy knows he is looking at possible jail time + easy lawsuit and is trying to get her out.

If she has a disabling mental condition, then she is protected under the ADA against many forms of discrimination (as well as I believe the Fair Housing Act).

What this reminds me of is how some landlords react when they find out someone renting has been previously... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by corb at 4:42 AM on November 13, 2015

It took a while but he's hypnotised
posted to MetaFilter by kersplunk at 10:52 AM on November 12, 2015

It's a decent set, but it doesn't include "Party at the Snow Hole", which is a classic of the genre, at least in our house.
posted to MetaFilter by yhbc at 9:17 AM on November 12, 2015

If anyone wants further technical reading, here are some recent notes from the NCTE about Obama admin input (copied from a PDF - apologies if I missed some weirdness):

Education
- Gender identity discrimination is sex discrimination.
- Students have the right to use restrooms consistent with their gender identity.
- Students have the right to class placements and overnight accommodations based on their gender identity.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Corinth at 3:19 AM on November 12, 2015

Another cat, enraptured.
posted to MetaFilter by soundofsuburbia at 8:11 AM on November 12, 2015

This is what works for me: Betting against myself. I know my coworker is going to do a lot of annoying things, so when I'm feeling particularly stressed and annoyed by it I say to myself, "I bet she's going to clear her ever-loving throat at least 15 times in the next hour." Then I make hash marks on a piece of paper and keep track. And here's the best part: If she clears her throat 18 times, I'm all "Yay, I won!" and if she doesn't I'm like, "Yes!!! I only had to put up... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by deadcrow at 6:17 PM on November 10, 2015 marked best answer

The Black Klingon Jesus picture immediately put me in mind of this treasure of the Internet. I love pictures of Jesus just chillin' with people.
posted to MetaFilter by Biblio at 5:20 PM on November 9, 2015

Yeah, I like moist breasts and hot thighs.
posted to MeFi IRL by Evilspork at 12:30 PM on November 7, 2015

I can't find a manual for the GrandPad, but it looks like it's a pretty recent device and so I suspect that the WEP encryption is the problem. WEP was thoroughly compromised 10+ years ago and thus cannot do its one job of providing security, and is effectively a dead standard. I wouldn't be at all surprised if the GrandPad developers didn't bother supporting it properly (though it would've been nice, given their target audience, if at the very least they'd given a helpful error message.)... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by contraption at 9:28 PM on November 8, 2015 marked best answer

I've clearly done a stellar marketing job.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by idlewords at 11:39 AM on November 8, 2015

The thing about "This is a cultural question. Maybe your culture matters." is that no one ever says this to white people. White people don't have a "culture" as "culture" is defined in this statement, because what "culture" means in this statement is "assortment of stereotypes and fictions I have heard about you people". A white person's culture is properly understood to be such a unique blend of their history and experiences that it's ludicrous,... [more]
posted to MetaTalk by Errant at 12:12 PM on November 5, 2015

I guess what I'm saying is, don't panic and don't feel like the initial message has to be perfect. It's not like there's a perfect coming-out email that will guarantee a good reaction. And people's initial reactions, based on whatever dumb preconceptions they've picked up, have almost nothing to do with what they'll end up thinking of you once they see what your transition really looks like.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nebulawindphone at 5:51 PM on November 7, 2015

I had face-to-face conversations with my immediate family, and then with close friends, and then sent a long email around to distant family and acquaintances. The face-to-face conversations were good because they let me figure out what was important to say in the email. My experience was that the really important things were:
Saying out loud that our friendship wouldn't be changing drastically — I still liked the people and places and things that I liked, and I wasn't planning on... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by nebulawindphone at 5:44 PM on November 7, 2015

It took me two seasons to realize that Matt Iseman's twitter handle wasn't gloriously, illogically "Matisse Man" but simply his name, @mattiseman.
posted to MetaFilter by lubujackson at 12:11 PM on November 6, 2015

Meanwhile the arguments of the communities convinced of his guilt tend to boil down to "Yes, but Muslim."

Or, "Yes, but statistically a massive proportion of murdered women are killed by their boyfriend or a recent ex." That's really what has me thinking that, as messed up as the whole investigation and prosecution was, Adnan is probably guilty. Because Occam's Razor and all.

(Pretty much the only other... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Sara C. at 12:53 PM on November 7, 2015

r/ftm is okay. It does skew younger, so people's coming out circumstances may be rather different to yours--I assume my relationship with my parents at age 40 will be rather different than it was at 20. r/asktransgender is much bigger, but not so helpful, particularly for afab people.

Remember that you are not explaining to people, you are informing them of what you expect them to do. Your best friends and immediate family should... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by hoyland at 5:15 PM on November 6, 2015

What I love about this show/sport is because of the nature of the competition -- person vs. environment -- you don't see people rooting against competitors. Sure, you see people cheering for their favorites, but you don't see anyone in the crowd going, "FALL! FALL! MISS IT, FUCKER! TRIP AND FALL!" You often seen competitors cheering each other on, even when there's real money on the line.

It's like gymnastics that way,... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Cool Papa Bell at 10:31 AM on November 6, 2015

I love this show. I love that it is ninja-vs.-obstacles and not ninja-vs-ninja, and that everyone is completely jazzed when other people do well.
posted to MetaFilter by jacquilynne at 9:46 AM on November 6, 2015

Oh god, the fanboys who routinely lose their shit on Twitter for any perceived slight on their precious childhood memories must be apoplectic.

It's a joy to behold. I'm starting the rumor that the next Special Edition of the movie will have a new scene where Jabba gives Leia her own office and competitive benefits package, including profit sharing.
posted to MetaFilter by dr_dank at 10:51 AM on November 5, 2015

No, it was from people participating in this conversation.
posted to MetaFilter by zombieflanders at 8:01 AM on November 5, 2015

Could we not dismiss the very real concerns of LGBTQ people who have to use churches as polling places, especially when it comes to voting on issues that directly affect their safety and civil rights?
posted to MetaFilter by zombieflanders at 7:56 AM on November 5, 2015

A friend of mine, who's trans, is from Houston.

She posted right after this went down "Well, i guess i'm never going home". The next comment had her mom tagged, and was just "Sorry mom".

What a punch in the gut. Broke my fucking heart. Holy shit.
posted to MetaFilter by emptythought at 4:13 AM on November 5, 2015

1) For the equality ordinance, the "best" (relative term here, I don't like it, because in a way it reinforces the mindset, but it speaks directly to them) retort is image macros I've seen that show post-transition Trans men and say "Do you want me in your bathroom?" something like that.

Absolutely not. The logical outcome of that is people like myself being excluded from such rights because well, we don't want [obviously a guy]... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Dysk at 8:54 AM on November 4, 2015

In the long run, I think the best PR against bathroom bills won't be those "burly trans man in the ladies' room" photos — really, those just reinforce the connection in people's minds between "trans stuff" and "male intruders."

The one I'm surprised we haven't seen, though, is stories where an early-transitioning, small-framed, extremely-feminine-looking girl coming home from her first year at college gets forced to use the big scary... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by nebulawindphone at 8:32 AM on November 4, 2015

What can be done to fix voter turnout, that's what I want to know.

Facebook, Twitter, your social network of choice. Talk about the candidates and issues early in the cycle, and even if you're not advocating particular candidates and issues, it will get people thinking about the election who typically don't.

When you talk to people about whether they're going to vote, it's as important to talk to them about... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Etrigan at 7:45 AM on November 4, 2015

what about that duck intern?
posted to MetaFilter by boo_radley at 6:50 PM on November 3, 2015

I would like to communicate that I appreciate a stranger reaching out to another human, but I want them to see that it’s not appropriate to start conversations with strange women about their appearance. I don’t want to make them feel bad about what was intended to be a kind interaction, and I don’t want them to hesitate to talk to strangers appropriately in the future.

As others are pointing out, this isn't "a stranger... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Etrigan at 11:35 AM on November 3, 2015

These are all well-meaning men of three races, different generations and middle to low incomes that had no idea that what they were doing is reinforcing gender roles and treats me like an object and not a human. They were trying to be nice.

I understand the impulse to want to trust these men truly had no idea what they were doing, but I believe that assumption is much too generous. Men who approach random women like this, whether they seem nice or... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by divined by radio at 11:24 AM on November 3, 2015

You all realize that the days get longer and shorter all on their own without moving the clocks around, right?

I get annoyed when people trot this line of argument out. Look, I'm not an idiot and I know that days are shorter in the winter and longer in the summer. But the point is, we don't live our lives according to the sun in an industrialized society, we live our lives according to the clock. Thus there's an actual difference if the sun sets at 8... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by andrewesque at 8:51 AM on November 3, 2015

[One comment deleted. Sorry, this is an issue we've had raging horrible fights over here, and it's not really something we're going to re-litigate in here.]
posted to MetaFilter by LobsterMitten at 11:23 AM on November 3, 2015

This interactive daylight saving time daylight estimator is kind of cool.
posted to MetaFilter by sneebler at 6:58 PM on November 2, 2015

I think I might be the only one here that kinda likes time switching. I'm going to say that this is due to my general dislike of routine and my like of things that change things up now and then. I know that this is just part of my general nature so I promise everyone here that hates this sort of change to not hold any sort of keep it as it is position. I know I'm in the minority here.
posted to MetaFilter by Jalliah at 8:20 AM on November 2, 2015

See, I actually appreciated the extra hour this morning. I've been getting more sluggish in the morning lately; my circadian rhythm is pretty tied into the light level in the morning, and it's been getting harder and harder to really wake up on time for the past few weeks; usually the alarm goes off and I end up lying in bed for nearly 45 minutes because it's still dark and I'm groggy. But this morning, I woke up about 40 minutes before the alarm, and I used the extra... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by EmpressCallipygos at 6:59 AM on November 2, 2015

I've always thought a specially trained koala bear would work well. It would cling to my back and reach around and cradle my boobs. No straps digging into my shoulders, and infinitely customizable pressure just based on a verbal command.
posted to MetaFilter by mysterious_stranger at 8:02 PM on November 1, 2015

I did read some of your blog entries. Honestly, they read as very aggressive and paranoid. Almost every entry. Can I please nth all of the other suggestions that you find someone to talk to in person? I know that this is all scary and so very lonely, but I do think that maybe you are not seeing things in the clearest light.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by Cloudberry Sky at 8:44 PM on November 1, 2015

I felt vaguely threatened by your remark, The Pluto Gangsta, like you're trying to get me to shut up.

Yeah, so... I'm reading your blog, I'm reading your threadsitting responses, and I don't know you and you're not going to listen to me but you really need someone to talk to. Your assessment of your own health and clarity is very likely skewed, your assessment of your relationship with your former neighbors is very likely skewed, your assessment of... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by babelfish at 8:39 PM on November 1, 2015

I think a lot of these "just don't talk about it!" answers, while totally valid and well-meaning, are kind of assuming you're on the same footing power-wise in society (i.e., that you're also white) and that you get to ignore it because your friend's views don't apply to you. But if you're angry with your friend or a little worried about what your friend thinks of you because she's espousing these ideas and because she doesn't realize what they mean not just for... [more]
posted to Ask MetaFilter by WidgetAlley at 7:31 PM on November 1, 2015 marked best answer

No prob, spacewaitress, as long as we can find a middle ground. I understand the squick. Lots of what Insex did leaves me cold and a bit squicked. But also, when I first met my wife over thirty years ago, she had to give me an education because I wasn't hurting her enough. I was more into the bondage and control thing but she actually wanted a nice little dollop of pain for it to work for her. That set me on a bit of a quest to understand these things. Nothing about it is intuitive.... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Bringer Tom at 7:25 PM on October 31, 2015

I don't get the sense that they are trying to monetize it by making ad sales. The YouTube thing is about bringing in recruits. Making it real is about making it real for people who want to go through it.

What is very hard to understand if you're not into it is that some people really want to be overwhelmed as a form of entertainment. They don't want the fake haircut, they want the real deal with the real nuisance and humiliation that goes after. They don't want the... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Bringer Tom at 7:05 PM on October 31, 2015

You're right, sciatrix. I consider sadism to be successful only if the submissive comes back voluntarily for more. Successful sadism is in large measure theatre for the benefit of the submissive. There is probably a layer of understanding to the OP which the reporters do not see because they are outsiders, and because their shock and disbelief may be part of the theatre of the experience for the actual customers.

And it seems from the OP that at least one of the... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Bringer Tom at 1:41 PM on October 31, 2015

then it's not clear to me how they make the session stop before the eight hours are up, since nobody has run the full gantlet.

The fact that there are no safe words does not mean there is no attentiveness to whether the ritual is producing its intended result. Someone who is getting a payoff from masochistic play will generally be active and filled with unfakeable tension. A common non-safeword out is to go limp, as this is something that will happen... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Bringer Tom at 12:25 PM on October 31, 2015

FFFM did you even read past the sentence you quoted? Because the rest of my comment pretty much is the answer to yours.

I would also appreciate it if you do not pervsplain to me why my sexual paraphilia does not somehow meet the standards you have erected for legitimacy, which I suppose do conveniently allow for the legitimacy of your sexuality or thrill-seeking level.

Several people have checked into this very thread to... [more]
posted to MetaFilter by Bringer Tom at 11:14 AM on October 31, 2015

This is a perfect post to celebrate cult cat game hit Neko Atsume getting localized into English (already on Android, iOS as soon as it's through review).
posted to MetaFilter by sparkletone at 7:11 AM on October 30, 2015

My head says to be polite, communicate, and try to see where he's coming from.

That's not your head, that's your training. Years of training that it's your responsibility to give people the benefit of the doubt when they're being total dicks. Except in this case there's actually no doubt and there's sure as hell no benefit. Lose this guy.
posted to Ask MetaFilter by escabeche at 7:34 PM on October 29, 2015